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I posted in this general thread related to this, but here is more appropriate...I love living alone. It took a long time to stop missing sharing my day or hugs or even just having conversations on a regular basis outside of work, but I'm good. I could take or leave any of that stuff. I keep very busy and am enjoying the freedom to do whatever I want. I found out I'm traveling, for work, to a place near Crater Lake, do I'm taking two vaca days to pop on over and hike that rim, maybe take a cold dip. I no longer care very much about romantic relationships or finding someone, and its freeing in all the best ways.

I enjoy my time away from my dysfunctional ex-wife. I have my kids 85% of the time. I enjoy my time with them alot. The only days I don't have them are Monday and Tuesday night. I'm at the point where I have no interest in ANY female relationship. I've gotten phone numbers from women and have be asked out on dates...I respectfully declined. Right now my young children are my top priority. One day I'll be ready.

I have no family except elderly mother. Have no friends since relocating. So I am lonely without friends...yes but do I miss an intimate relationship? Not on your life...love living alone

JerseyCowgirl,

I am hoping to get to where you are. I spend lots of time taking care of my mother, who is 95 years old. I have not been good about cultivating girlfriend relationships because I did husband/couple stuff instead. I guess I will adapt.

Loving this thread as I will be living alone soon. I also have never lived on my own. I have either had roommates, BF, or husband.

I have been lonely through most of my M as my WS has either worked overtime or out cheating. I do feel lonely at times but I think I'm confusing my loneliness with feelings of abandonment.

I will have my pets and my kids part of the time so I won't be entirely by myself. I also have girlfriends that I see weekly which helps. I had to put my volunteer work on hold because it is taking all my energy just to get through this transition.

I lived alone with my kids 50% when we separated. It was wonderful.

The only thing that was hard for me is that my EX would not get my name off the house and so I had to live in a rented condo when I was accustomed to living in a house with a backyard, etc. for over 20 years.

Its amazing how you really find yourself living on your own. Your free to cry, scream, drink wine, whatever....without judgement.

It's been just about a year for me. At first the house seemed big and empty, and it kind of was, because WXH took the bulk of the furniture. I slowly filled it back up, hung art on the walls, and came to see it as "my" house. I do have the two dogs with me (he wasn't interested at all in keeping the dogs).

I think it may be a bit easier for me because I was single until I married XWH at 37 -- that's a full 15 post-college years on my own when I was buying cars, a house, and generally adulting all on my own. I've come to think of my time with XWH as a 16-year interlude away from my "single" default setting.

I do miss the companionship of a partner. But I don't know that I would want to make the compromises in autonomy that would be necessary to try to find and foster a new relationship. I'm a bit selfish now, and I accept it.