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No, I'm sorry, but "boys will be boys" is unfuckingacceptable.

I would have hoped that this crap excuse no longer existed in schools, but that would be naive of me. It's incredible how much absolute nonsense teen girls have to deal with still. I'm so sorry that you guys are going through this. I wish I had more than empathy to offer. It just sucks.

Adlham, I am so sorry that this happened to her and to you. Keep reminding her that you're proud and she has nothing to be ashamed about. But also give her space to process and not go back to school right away if that's what she needs. Her safety comes first. She could switch schools or switch to online classes if she needs to. It may also be worth it to ask if she would like to talk with an IC.

I'm so sorry your daughter experienced this. I'm glad she reported it. I hope the boys follow through and confess, and I hope the school follows through.

IDK ... our 11 year old GS watches a lot of youtube of boys and young men bragging about the Madden video game, and it may be that he picks up ways of behavior from them - bragging, challenging, verbal attacks, etc.

It may not be 'boys will be boys'; rather it may be a matter of letting media teach uncivilized behavior.

That doesn't help your daughter. I make the suggestion because the problem may be bigger than it looks. Maybe the school needs to teach civilized behavior....

Yuck ! I am so sorry . What a hideous nightmare . If she is amenable to Ic i strongly suggest it . Perhaps she would also like to explore martial arts . I cant believe this is still happening i thought those days were over .

((((Adlham))))

I'm so sorry. The whole 'you're not good enough', well that's just bullshit - those people who have excluded you are the not good enough ones.

It's so sad that our parents lay a lot of this kind of stuff on us. And it's also sad that society treats people differently based on perceptions of race. I just read about a woman from Iowa (I think) who ran over 2 young girls, in 2 separate incidents, because she 'thought' they were maybe from another country, Middle Eastern or Mexican. How fucked up is that?

I don't know what you look like and frankly I don't care. You have been an incredible support to me, and my heart is aching for you now.

You might not feel ok right now, but I guarantee you that you are. You are good enough. And I hope that you will realize that for yourself.

Sending lots of strength, love and positive, healing thoughts. Let those carry you through this rough time.

((((Adlham))))

eta: 'boys will be boys' is a bullshit excuse for avoiding parental duties. I have 3 boys (and no girls), and I don't think any of them have even THOUGHT of doing something like that. I know for a fact that they never HAVE done anything like that.

Just be there for your DD, and make damn sure that you or your H follows up with the school. Do NOT let this fall through the cracks!!

((((Adlham & DD))))

[This message edited by ZenMumWalking at 7:01 PM, April 23rd (Friday)]

(((Adlham & DD))). Unacceptable behavior— I hope the boys’ parents are equally infuriated.

Edited: I posted verbal diarrhea. While the sentiments I posted I believe in 100%, the manner in which I posted them was uncouth. We live in such a divided society, that when I read takes from people on the opposite side of the political spectrum, I just want to attack.

This isn't the correct place for such things.

Sorry.

[This message edited by RizerStrike at 2:45 AM, April 24th (Saturday)]

Hey Riser, feel free to fuck off.

These are MY goddamn fucking experiences.

Who the fuck do you think you are, coming into MY thread and being a prick?

For the fucking record, I have survived childhood sexual abuse, rape, domestic violence to the point of being beaten half to death.

So do not FUCKING TELL ME THAT I AM ENTITLED AND DON'T KNOW WHAT HARD IS BECAUSE YOU HAVE NO FUCKING CLUE ABOUT MY GODDAMN LIFE.

Edit: I'm an actual scumbag. I got triggered by this topic and spewed absolute garbage.

This site isn't the place for me.

Sorry.

[This message edited by RizerStrike at 2:42 AM, April 24th (Saturday)]

((((Adlham))))

I'm so sorry that you had to see that. Only a real douche (or self-proclaiimed 'scumbag') would say that kind of shit on your thread, where you are expressing so much PAIN. Scrape off this dogshit from your shoe and move on.

((((Adlham))))

(((ZenMum)))