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steadychevy ( member #42608) posted at 11:34 AM on Monday, February 17th, 2020
How did the face to face after the phone call go, nekorb?
BH(me)72(now); XWW 64; M 42 yrsDDay1-01/09/13;DDay2-26/10/13;DDay3-19/12/13;DDay4-21/01/14LTA-09/02-06/06? OM - COW 4 years; "dates" w/3 lovers post engagement;ONS w/stranger post commitment, lies, lies, liesSeparated 23/09/2017; D 16/03/2020
CharliB ( member #59007) posted at 3:21 PM on Monday, February 17th, 2020
I'm very interested in the dynamic here, as I am recently engaged to a man with 4 adult children and I have 4 of my own. From what I am gathering, you are very invested in solving the issue and not rug sweeping. I think that keeping the communication going is key here so that both of you can be open about how each other is feeling.
The truth doesn't cost you anything but a lie could cost you everything
little turtle ( member #15584) posted at 7:01 PM on Monday, February 24th, 2020
Failure is success if we learn from it.
HappyTree ( member #56916) posted at 5:17 PM on Tuesday, February 25th, 2020
So, I read all of your updates but I am going to say this. You are quite kind to this guy and definitionally giving him a second chance when there is now way I would do that for someone who makes gay jokes. Or someone who thinks its funny to call their son a "daughter." I have zero tolerance for those kinds of insult.
I would also be sad if I was in a relationship with someone and I didn't get to combine families, even if they are all adults. I picture family parties and it would make me sad to lose that.
Also, I think about when my ex MIL had her 3rd wedding to a guy none of us liked. No one cared about being at the wedding. No one was happy for her. Because we didn't like the guy. Are your friends/family even happy for you? Would they care if you got married? Maybe they have a reason.
And I'm glad that you guys are talking. People are afraid to have any conflict in a relationship until a ton of crap just blows up and the relationship is over.
Married 11 years
D-Day in October 2016
2 kids- 10 and 8
ZenMumWalking ( member #25341) posted at 2:52 PM on Wednesday, February 26th, 2020
Q: What does "G5" mean?
IIRC, It's the fifth guy (guy 5) that she dated after divorce.
Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen (in permanent S)
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now
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