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OM died. Was my reaction out of line?

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BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 12:16 AM on Sunday, October 5th, 2025

Hmm. I am team asparagus before the big pee laugh

Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)

**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **

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Pogre ( member #86173) posted at 2:19 AM on Sunday, October 5th, 2025

Unhinged...

No, I don't think you're being an asshole. In fact, I hope you can find the grave and enjoy a nice, long stinky pee

This made me spit my Coke on my computer screen. laugh

Now that I think about it....

I would suggest that he drinks 2 or 3 Cokes.

They give a good effervescence to the long stinky pee.

And asparagus. Lots of asparagus will give your pee that little extra pungent aroma. grin

[This message edited by Pogre at 2:19 AM, Sunday, October 5th]

Where am I going... and why am I in this handbasket?

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Pogre ( member #86173) posted at 2:21 AM on Sunday, October 5th, 2025

Hmm. I am team asparagus before the big pee laugh


Beat me to it! Lol.

Where am I going... and why am I in this handbasket?

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The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 12:22 PM on Tuesday, October 7th, 2025

I would be very angry that my wife was so concerned about his death that she was stupid enough to bring it up to you.

Some people just don’t know when to keep their mouth shut.

Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 12 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.

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BluerThanBlue ( member #74855) posted at 2:51 PM on Tuesday, October 7th, 2025

Even if she was foolish enough to open her mouth about OM's death, she should've at least had the brains to keep it shut after your response.

Perhaps the biggest impediment to a happy relationship with your wife isn't her lack of remorse but her utter stupidity.

[This message edited by BluerThanBlue at 2:52 PM, Tuesday, October 7th]

BW, 40s

Divorced WH in 2015; now happily remarried

I edit my comments a lot for spelling, grammar, typos, etc.

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crazycatlady ( member #12849) posted at 9:39 PM on Wednesday, October 8th, 2025

If I found out FOW croaked I’d feel sorry for her kids. After that, champagne would flow.

Love all, trust a few. Do wrong to none.William Shakespeare "All's Well That Ends Well"D-Day: Nov 30, 2006"For I have sworn thee fair, and thought thee bright, who art as black as hell, as dark as night." William Shakespeare

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Pogre ( member #86173) posted at 12:36 AM on Thursday, October 9th, 2025

My wife wished death by seizure on her AP. She has epilepsy so it's a really soft spot for her. It was kind of shocking to hear that from her, but I can't say I'd be upset if it happened. I might even develop temporary selective amnesia for my seizure first aid courses if he went down in front of me.

Where am I going... and why am I in this handbasket?

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3yrsout ( member #50552) posted at 5:08 PM on Friday, October 10th, 2025

You’re absolutely in the wrong here. Pissing is not nearly disrespectful enough.

Pissing on someone’s grave is not nearly as disrespectful as pooping on it. That would be the much better option, you silly person, you!

And if you’re a private pooper, might I suggest pooping in a bag, freezing it, then setting it on the top of the headstone while frozen?

Best done in the heat of summer……

I’m sorry your wife is incredibly dull.

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WB1340 ( member #85086) posted at 5:44 PM on Friday, October 10th, 2025

I find this baffling. If you, and I'm speaking in general, are going to harbor such hatred towards your spouse's AP why don't you have the same level of hatred for your spouse? If anything, I would think you would hate your spouse more than the AP because your spouse is supposed to protect you and the relationship whereas the AP has no such obligation

Both are equally guilty in the affair. No one was held down, no one was forced, no one was blackmailed, both parties did it willingly for selfish purposes

IMO my wife's AP is truly a piece of shit. He was carrying on with my wife while his wife was waiting to have surgery to find out if she had breast cancer. He had an affair several years earlier as well and after his affair with my wife was exposed he moved on to another coworker, who had a boyfriend, and they had sex not only in the car that belongs to him and his wife but also on this woman's desk in the school.

I made sure to tell my wife all of this so she could see the type of man that she was willing to destroy a 27-year relationship over, just for some cheap compliments that made her feel good about herself. There is zero doubt in my mind that the end game was a physical affair even though my wife adamantly denies that she would have let that happen. How many times has a WS said I have no idea how it got to this :/

D-day April 4th 2024. WW was sexting with a married male coworker. Started R a week later, still ongoing...

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