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Phoenix1 ( member #38928) posted at 8:23 PM on Thursday, April 18th, 2019
Congratulations! May it be a long and happy marriage!
fBS - Me
Xhole - Multiple LTAs/2 OCs over 20+yrs
Adult Kids
Happily divorced!
You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. ~C.S. Lewis~
heartbroken_kk ( member #22722) posted at 8:58 PM on Thursday, April 18th, 2019
this makes me so happy!
Congratulations! What a great future you have ahead of you! 
FBW then 46, XWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life. D-Day 1 '99, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... '09-'11, D '15. I fell apart. I put myself back together. Forgiveness isn't required. I'm happy and healthy now, and MY new life is good.
HalfTime2017 ( member #64366) posted at 9:37 PM on Thursday, April 18th, 2019
Awesome news Ohfor. Been following your story from the beginning and this couldn't have happened to a better survivor.
Best to you both.
Marz ( member #60895) posted at 9:43 PM on Thursday, April 18th, 2019
Edie ( member #26133) posted at 10:47 PM on Thursday, April 18th, 2019
Fantastic news, congratulations 😊
NEPAlady ( new member #66411) posted at 11:54 PM on Thursday, April 18th, 2019
Wow!
May you & your expanding family have a long beautiful life together.
JoyfulMourning ( new member #70342) posted at 12:15 AM on Friday, April 19th, 2019
I love a great love story with a beautiful ending that leads into the beginning of another great love story.
Thank you for sharing this wonderful news! I'm delighted for you all!
*In the end I've gained more confidence than I've lost.
**I'm not a "one in a million" kind of girl: I'm a once in a lifetime type of woman.
*** I'm not arm candy; I'm soul food.
demolishedinside ( member #47839) posted at 12:28 AM on Friday, April 19th, 2019
BS - me/3 kids
DD - April 2015 / SA-Jan. 28, 2017
DD2- October 23, 2018
Divorced and happy
ohforanewme (original poster member #59230) posted at 3:22 PM on Friday, April 19th, 2019
Thanks all.
I am always surprised when new folk pop in on a thread and let me realise just how big this wonderful support group I have in SI is. So to those of you who have stopped in here now, thanks.
And Bleep, what CharliB wrote is so lovely is it not? So thank you both.
Josiep, I had that ditty playing in my head all morning until I read Cooley’s post in the D/S thread. I looked the song she recommended up on YouTube. Cured me of the ditty, but now I have that one on repeat in the head.
This stuff just keeps wanting to bubble out of me, so here is a little more.
Since we got back I have been kept busy. First, we just had to get to see all of her friends that have become our couple friends and whose company I enjoy. Then we had to do the rounds of the extended Friday night supper crowd. That bit I never anticipated, but understand. Then came the manufacturing of reasons to meet friends of hers from school or university who I don't even recall her ever mentioning, but who just happen to be in the vicinity.
It has been an interesting experience for me. An engagement ring has a strange effect on women. It seems to make them all 20 somethings again. They all become giggly and touchy, and hyperactive. They ooh and ahh, grab the ring hand, get dreamy eyed and then repeat.
Oh yes, and then there is the wedding planning. I sort of forgot that a wedding is I suppose, a natural consequence of engagement and asking a woman to be your wife.
I do know one thing. I argue about nothing. I thought that given that I am sort of a high risk fiancé, that we should maybe look at early May at the latest. She would rather take the risk and wait till September. Admittedly, our world is prettier then.
What is settled is that Sunshine will be our flower girl. DD will be her bridesmaid, DS my best man. Mom (that is MMS's mom if you have forgotten) will walk her down the aisle and give her away.
After some input from a wise advisor, I am considering suggesting that we ask J to be our wedding coordinator.
And all this from a woman who, as I recall, had no regard for the institution of marriage.
phmh ( member #34146) posted at 4:06 PM on Friday, April 19th, 2019
What a fabulous post to read. I am so, so happy for you. I love your comment about it being criminal to be so happy. Enjoy every minute of it!!!
Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!
Married: 11 years, no kids
Character is destiny
Cooley2here ( member #62939) posted at 11:13 PM on Friday, April 19th, 2019
We have watched this from the beginning. It is such a wonderful story.
I see trees of green, red roses too
I see them bloom for me and you
And I think to myself what a wonderful world.
Louis Armstrong
Next song on your list
[This message edited by Cooley2here at 5:13 PM, April 19th (Friday)]
When things go wrong, don’t go with them. Elvis
babypuke ( member #56585) posted at 2:19 AM on Saturday, April 20th, 2019
Congratulations!!! Great news and I am so happy for you!!!, enjoy, have fun and happiness!!! Regards from the area between Keukenhof and Delft!-Bp
lizgwvet ( member #15967) posted at 2:31 AM on Saturday, April 20th, 2019
Fabulous story, may you have many long and happy years together!
When someone reveals their true self the first time believe it!
Maya Angelou
steadychevy ( member #42608) posted at 3:12 AM on Saturday, April 20th, 2019
Congratulations, ohfor, and to MMS and Sunshine, DD and DS, too. It'll be a natural transition because you're already family.
BH(me)72(now); XWW 64; M 42 yrsDDay1-01/09/13;DDay2-26/10/13;DDay3-19/12/13;DDay4-21/01/14LTA-09/02-06/06? OM - COW 4 years; "dates" w/3 lovers post engagement;ONS w/stranger post commitment, lies, lies, liesSeparated 23/09/2017; D 16/03/2020
shakentocore ( member #46124) posted at 6:00 AM on Saturday, April 20th, 2019
Congratulations! I could not be happier for you!
I must point out, however, that if (as) MMS is a woman, she is your fiancée (two e’s). The male is the fiancé (one e).
DDay - Christmas 2014. Working on R.
Buster123 ( member #65551) posted at 6:53 AM on Saturday, April 20th, 2019
ohforanewme (original poster member #59230) posted at 9:33 AM on Saturday, April 20th, 2019
Hey babypuke
Thanks for stopping by again. It has been a while. I will never forget what Ponus wrote about you in my JFO thread. Now knowing where you are from I feel an even stronger connection. Right now I am munching on an Albert Heijn minder suiker stroopwaffel that I warmed and softened on my coffee cup. It is as if you invited me in for morning coffee and a chat.
steadychevy, it means a lot from you. Like babypuke, you have walked this entire journey with me and never lost patience. You are right, we are already family and have been for quite some time. Feels like forever.
shakentocore, thanks. I never knew that. Will correct it from now on. Am presuming that the pronunciation stays the same?
lizgwvet, my subconscious keeps telling me that your screen name should have relevance to me, but nothing comes to mind. Is there a European connection? In any case, thanks.
phmh and Buster, thanks to you as well.
Cooley2, I love old Louis. Don't mind that one playing in my head all day. Going to get it on YouTube right now.
hopeandnohope ( member #43097) posted at 5:54 PM on Saturday, April 20th, 2019
What a wonderful story! Life is full of ups and downs and you have been blessed with the good part of life. Glad you are enjoying your amazing happiness right now. You deserve it!
DD 2013. Divorce final March 2015.
Carissima ( member #66330) posted at 12:45 AM on Sunday, April 21st, 2019
What great news!
Congratulazioni per il tuo fidanzamento xx
deena04 ( member #41741) posted at 1:51 AM on Sunday, April 21st, 2019
Yay to you both!! The biggest of congratulations coming your way.
Me FBS 40s, Him XWS older than me (lovemywife4ever), D, He cheated before M, forgot to tell me. I’m free and loving life.
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