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Daughter is about to have a baby, she says you don’t use blankets or quilts in the crib?

You put baby in a baby sack so they don’t suffocate?

I’ve seen these sacks and bought one, but does that really keep the baby warm enough? I used blankets on my kids, they survived just fine.

Is that the thing now?

Hmmm interesting.

All if my children were preemies. I just swaddled them when they were newborns. Once they fit into onsies i put them in that and yes, with a blanket.

The only time a blanket became an issue was when i used one with a line of thread on the outside stitched along the edge. Thst stitching came off and the string was pulled from one twins crib to the next. Obviously they were older by that point. Still scary that they were able to pull it off the blanket.

Never used a baby sac.

Yes, that is the new advice. Also babys are to sleep on their backs. SIDS research has lead to these new ways. I would follow your daughter's lead on this. If you want to make a blanket or quilt go for it and let her know it is for tummy time or for outing in a stroller. If you want to catch up on the new best practices for infants I would see what current magazines are available for new or expecting patents.

Yes, that is the new advice. Also babys are to sleep on their backs. SIDS research has lead to these new ways. I would follow your daughter's lead on this. If you want to make a blanket or quilt go for it and let her know it is for tummy time or for outing in a stroller. If you want to catch up on the new best practices for infants I would see what current magazines are available for new or expecting parents. Almost forgot all the people I know that have used sleep sacks baby wore a sleeper underneath and the sack over and the babies seemed toasty.

Yes, that's the medical advice now. The SIDS rate in the United States has dropped by two thirds since doctors started advising parents to eliminate blankets and soft objects from the crib, to use a firm mattress, and to put babies to sleep on their backs.

Having lost my first two babies (to complications of prematurity, not SIDS), I was a basket case about the possibility that my subsequent children could suffocate if I did anything wrong. Of course, our old house was drafty, and we had winter babies, so I also worried they would freeze. I bought all the fleece feety pajamas I could find, and they were plenty warm enough.

My youngest defied all medical recommendations by learning to roll over consistently when he was less than a month old. I got the standard "that's impossible" until I showed the videos. He preferred his stomach, and since I couldn't exactly duct tape him to the mattress, I had no idea how to keep him on his back. Finally, my H convinced me that if he could reliably get on his belly, he could get back off it if necessary. I still didn't sleep easily until he was a year old and out of the SIDS danger zone.

[This message edited by BraveSirRobin at 12:45 PM, Friday, November 26th]

No blanket, no bumpers, no stuffies...my new granddaughter is swaddled in a Snoo bassinet for sleeping. She runs warm, so she doesn't usually have anything more than a diaper and onesie underneath. I worry that she isn't getting enough time on her belly to strengthen her neck muscles but I'm told that's an unnecessary worry. I'm sure I'll figure out something else to worry about!

Amazing how things change.

How do you now prevent flat head if they are always on their backs?

They recommend a certain amount of supervised time on their tummies every day, not sure how much.

Dragn, I thought of that. But I can tell you my granddaughter has a very round, and rather large head! Absolutely no sign of flattening

Just Googled the Snoo. Man, that's the BMW of bassinets!

@BraveSirRobin - I think you can rent them, too, if you don't want to purchase, which makes it a tiny bit more affordable for some parents.

My dil has health issues which are exacerbated by lack of sleep. Her mother bought the snoo. It really has been a godsend.
My son did the lion's share of childcare while dil recovered from difficult labor and a c-section, and her body was spasming as it recovered and got used to her normal pre pregnancy medication. The snoo took some getting used to, it makes womb sounds, but the settings change as the baby grows.
They are sometimes available for sale used. And reselling it after you don't need it again is EASY.

It’s amazing how it’s changed. My children have a significant age range and I saw the side sleeper thing that held them in place, the bumpers are ok, the no bumpers, the nothing but the sleep sack, you name it. I remember my older siblings having kids and it was belly sleeping. Yes, today is nothing but baby and the sleep sack or Jammies.

Yes, today is nothing but baby and the sleep sack or Jammies.

Don't forget the swaddle wrap!

[This message edited by number4 at 8:24 PM, Saturday, November 27th]

My dil has health issues which are exacerbated by lack of sleep. Her mother bought the snoo. It really has been a godsend.

I hope I didn't come off as critical. My DD was a terrible sleeper. She screamed if she wasn't held 24/7. I developed a protocol to try to avoid waking her up when putting her in her bassinet. I would make sure I had a thin flannel blanket under her, so she wouldn't feel a change in temperature (this was when flannel was still considered ok). I laid her down very slowly and hovered above her with my arms still in place. Then I slowly withdrew my arms, staying in place over the bassinet for 30 seconds to prevent a change in air temperature. Then I backed away and waited two minutes to see if it had worked. About two thirds of the time, she woke up screaming. The 30% that it succeeded, I had 90 minutes before it was time to nurse again.

At the six week mark, I literally fell asleep on my feet in those two minutes. I woke up when my knees buckled. I was already starting to hallucinate from sleep deprivation.

All this is to say, no judgment -- I'd have paid anything for a healthy solution that helped her sleep!

I hope I didn't come off as critical.

Not at all! It is far more than I would have spent back in the day. My DIL is quite a remarkable woman. She has CP as a result of a stroke as she was being born. She's in constant pain but doesn't complain, just an occasional wince. They attempted a vaginal birth, but just didn't progress. Pain meds after surgery resulted in more and worsening muscle spasms. The let down reflex caused her muscles to spasm. They finally found a muscle relaxant that enabled her to function but not for a week or more. She's now back to her "regular" meds and healing, with permission to begin to exercise. Fortunately, baby is thriving on the first formula they tried and is having no problems with feeding. She's fat and growing beautifully.
Another change was that the hospitals near us have no nurseries. Baby is with you 24/7. Fortunately, my son was allowed to stay with them, sleeping in a chair for 4 days. He's an RN so was able to advocate for her when needed. He's very protective of his wife and adores being a dad.
They really excelled at calling on their "village" to help. We have been able to spend a lot of time with the baby, and my son and his wife are learning to be excellent partners in all this.
I've heard that the Snoo doesn't work for everybody!