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 ZenMumWalking (original poster member #25341) posted at 1:08 AM on Tuesday, July 20th, 2021

Give me a U!! Give me a C!! Give me a K!!

Can we spell FUCK CANCER!!!!!!

It seems that so many of us here are either affected or know (or 'know') someone affected. So many recent threads here in OT, Jeanie, MN (but hooray for the positive followups), the tragic death of MissesJai.......

Let's do all we can to fight this ugly beast!!

((((cancer victims, survivors and loved ones))))

Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen (in permanent S)
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now

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Jeaniegirl ( member #6370) posted at 5:01 AM on Tuesday, July 20th, 2021

I hear you loud and clear!

After I heal, I WILL devote some energy, time and money to do what I can -- American Cancer Society and other organizations. Research is SO important.

Thank you for posting this.

"Because I deserve better"

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BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 7:01 AM on Tuesday, July 20th, 2021

❤️❤️❤️

Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)

**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **

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1ptsdsurvivor71 ( new member #65859) posted at 7:40 AM on Tuesday, July 20th, 2021

I wholeheartedly agree bc my ONLY living biological sibling, my older brother, currently lives with stage IV stomach cancer; has for almost 5 years now.

Thus far, he's managed to live almost 4-ish years beyond the original he was given.

As it is, prior to my brother, at his last cancer specific treatment hospital, brother shared how their longest surviving stomach cancer patient was somewhere around 18 months.

We come from very old military families as well as reasonably solid genetics as well as we're both incredibly unbelievably stubborn.

I also firmly believe that my brother's awesome dark & twisted sense of humor helps him through medical treatments & personal situations that would make most less hardy & thick headed folks shrink back.

I supposed his 22 years active military service as well as 5-7 years in the National Guard & Army Reserve & 2 tours in Iraq & Afghanistan have helped his sense of resolve & surviving.

"Stu" really did manage not only to grow up but he sobered up & began maturing as well.

He retired honorably from the Army to do pretty much the same thing as he did in the Army for the past several years.

And just about the time that Stu, his wife, young adult kids, step kids & grade school aged grandkids were about to begin enjoying retirement, togetherness & traveling & just enjoying life, sadly, it was around this time after numerous doctor appointments & various tests that Stu learned that he had stage IV gastric adenocarcinoma.

To say that my brother's world suddenly felt like it was crashing down on him & his family is still quite the understatement.

Because Stu's cancer is stage 4,recovery & 100% remission from stomach cancer is highly unlikely & realistically doubtful.

With a hefty regimen of Rx meds & regularly scheduled chemotherapy, strictly from a medical standpoint, "stable" & with no further metastasis is about the best that my brother can hope for.

My brother is definitely at the point in his life where he, his wife, kids, step kids & grandkids enjoy as much togetherness as they can because sadly there will definitely come a different day & to be brutally honest, I'm just the long distance younger sister & I just do NOT want to contemplate that day just yet.

In the meantime, my brother, his wife & family as well as my husband & I all enjoy keeping in touch as much as we reasonably can.

As for how I personally feel about cancer?

I'd love nothing more than to give cancer a pre-mortem Viking funeral.

Strength, blessings, honor & ((gentle virtual hugs)) from 1ptsdsurvivor71

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Jeaniegirl ( member #6370) posted at 4:38 PM on Tuesday, July 20th, 2021

1PTSDSurvivor, thank you so much for sharing. Your brother Stu is an incredible person. Having a great family has to be helping him stay around. There MUST be a cure out there and I know great strides have been made in several types of cancers. The same with heart and lung issues. There WILL be a day, I feel, when cancer is wiped out.

You mentioned his sense of humor. I truly believe that gets a lot of us through a lot of bad times. My surgeon (in June) has a zaney sense of humor and I picked up on that right away. When I went back for my three weeks check up, I demanded he tell me just WHERE he got the arms to transplant on to me because my real ARMS certainly don't look like my arms look now .. (because I've lost 17 pounds) ... as I've always been toned and fit. Right away his sense of humor kicked in and he told me that would be 'extra' for him to put my original arms back on. Even dark humor helps.

I will send positive thoughts to your brother. Look at Michael Douglas, still alive and kicking with the same type of cancer.

Although I never had the chance to meet her, this site owes so much to a wonderful lady who went away due to cancer. People here UNDERSTAND the worry, the pain and losing those we love.

"Because I deserve better"

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Jeaniegirl ( member #6370) posted at 10:22 PM on Saturday, July 24th, 2021

And yet another close friend.

Offically disgnosed with acute Myeloid Leukemia (AML) and put in hospital same day. I know it's bad.

She is such a wonderful person, the Mom of one of my daughter's best friends. She is the absolute HEART of her family. Two daughters (one with two small children and another on the way), second daughter in college and her son a senior in H.S.

And a husband who absolutely adores her.

So sudden. She's already getting what her daughter said they called the "Red Devil of Chemo" and they are talking about bone marrow transplant.

I am so very sad for her and her beautiful family.

HATE CANCER!!!!

"Because I deserve better"

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zebra25 ( member #29431) posted at 11:44 PM on Saturday, July 24th, 2021

prayers for your friend and her family Jeanie.

"Don't let anyone who hasn't been in your shoes tell you how to tie your laces."

D-day April 2010

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Jeaniegirl ( member #6370) posted at 2:22 PM on Sunday, July 25th, 2021

It appears, unless there is a miracle of sorts, that she will be gone in 4-6 months. She is only 46 years old.

[This message edited by Jeaniegirl at 8:25 AM, July 25th (Sunday)]

"Because I deserve better"

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Shockedmom ( member #44708) posted at 7:44 PM on Sunday, July 25th, 2021

With you on this. Took my dad and my mothers has survived breast cancer and two separate incidents of skin cancer. Fu#@$ing hate cancer.

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BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 8:18 PM on Sunday, July 25th, 2021

Jeanie, I am sorry to you and the others who have posted. Cancer is horrible, whether short and sudden or long and drawn out. Modern medicine has made great strides and I hope for those miracles for all your loved ones.

Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)

**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **

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