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TurnedTurtle (original poster member #65603) posted at 10:43 AM on Wednesday, August 5th, 2020
Today marks two years since I confronted my wife about her relationship with the other man.
We have come a long, long way since then, and I now don't spend any time here on SI, but I did want to pop in and say Thank You, you all helped me get through some pretty tough and very dark times.
"Secrets have a cost, they're not free, not now, not ever!"
Stevesn ( member #58312) posted at 11:38 AM on Wednesday, August 5th, 2020
Good to hear from you. I’ve thought about what happened to you every so often and hoped you had found happiness.
Can you tell us if your W is still working with her mentor crush and how that is going? Have you inserted yourself into that world so you are a large presence when it comes to her relationship with him and the others there?
And how is it going between you and your W. Have you been able to become more intimate with each other or is she still keeping you at arms length when it comes to physical contact and making love?
I’m hoping you can find a path to happiness, whether that is with her or without her.
fBBF. Just before proposing, broke it off after her 2nd confirmed PA in 2 yrs. 9 mo later I met the wonderful woman I have spent the next 30 years with.
Oldwounds ( member #54486) posted at 5:07 PM on Wednesday, August 5th, 2020
Good update TT, I hope the healing continues!
Married 36+ years, together 41+ years
Two awesome adult sons.
Dday 6/16 4-year LTA Survived.
M Restored
"It is better to conquer our grief than to deceive it." — Seneca
fareast ( Moderator #61555) posted at 1:42 PM on Thursday, August 6th, 2020
Thanks for the update TT. Great to see you are in a better place. Per angusta ad augusta.
Never bother with things in your rearview mirror. Your best days are on the road in front of you.
Ladybugmaam ( member #69881) posted at 9:50 PM on Friday, August 7th, 2020
Thank you for posting this. I'm 17 months out. Things have come a very long way. I'm grateful for the changes, but also hate that they had to come about in this way. I often wish I could grab some grandmother in the street and ask her how she coped and thrived through infidelity....cause I KNOW it happens far more often than people will talk about. I also yearn to see more happily long marrieds. It seems like divorce is all around me in my parents and friends and the OW/OBS. Would love to see some couples modeling their best outcome and owning that this is a crappy part of it.
EA DD 11/2018
PA DD 2/25/19
One teen son
I am a phoenix.
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