hikingout posted 12/24/2019 05:21 AM

So turnthepage has surgery yesterday. He is getting along pretty good and sleeping now. I am writing this in the recliner next to his bed. We are hoping he will get out later today. I slept for several hours last night and sometime after I woke the nurse told me he walked out to the station on the last scheduled time for checking his vitals and asked them to do them out there so they wouldn’t wake me up. I cannot believe at a time like this he did that. I would have wanted woken up any time, I can sleep later. He felt I had exhausted myself over the weekend with all the cooking and such while the kids were home celebrating Christmas. They were all here yesterday to wait with me, we played cards in the cafeteria and it passed the time quickly.

Anyway, we had a nice Christmas, and it’s times like this my heart is full and I am so happy and thankful to be by his side. I wish everyone a wonderful holiday season, may you find those moments of hope and love and be filled with the spririt. It’s a magical time of year for quiet reflection, may it inspire you.

[This message edited by hikingout at 5:33 AM, December 24th (Tuesday)]

BraveSirRobin posted 12/24/2019 06:34 AM

Thanks for the update! Wishing turnthepage a speedy and successful recovery!

MrsWalloped posted 12/24/2019 08:39 AM

Same here. Hope he gets well soon.

Owl6118 posted 12/24/2019 09:04 AM

Best wishes to him for a speedy recovery and to both of you for a good new year.

fareast posted 12/24/2019 12:27 PM

Best wishes for a speedy and full recovery. Best wishes to you both moving forward.

sisoon posted 12/25/2019 12:45 PM

I'm sorry your H needed surgery. I'm glad it went well. I wish him a speedy, complete recovery.

Um ... if he's still in the hospital you may need to advocate for him, especially if mgmt cut the staff to avoid holiday pay.

Oldwounds posted 12/27/2019 12:59 PM

Good update hikingout. Getting to the other side of surgery is always a good start.

May the recovery be quick turnthepage!

The holiday season is a great opportunity for quiet reflection and inspiration. I hope you and yours are doing well.

FoenixRising posted 12/27/2019 13:01 PM

Sending love and light HIO. 💗

Chaos posted 12/27/2019 13:06 PM

Sending prayers and positive vibes and some sparkles to you and yours.

thatbpguy posted 12/27/2019 18:34 PM

Prayers and a rock solid recovery.

ChanceAtLife35 posted 12/28/2019 12:52 PM

Hope your husband is healing and in good spirits. Thank you for the update.

Regretitall posted 12/30/2019 13:33 PM

Glad to hear your H is doing well!

I had tried to send you a message, hikingout, but it says you're at your limit. Perhaps you'd be able to message me at some time that is convenient for you?

hikingout posted 1/6/2020 10:19 AM

Thanks everyone! He is doing fantastic!

Regretitall - I did clean out my inbox. I will send you something shortly.

Followtheriver posted 1/6/2020 13:26 PM

I am so happy to hear that everything went well and turnthepage is doing fantastic!

Don't forget to take care of yourself too. With the surgery, Christmas and family, it really is ok to need some down time, recharge your mind and soul and to take care of what's on the inside, as well as the outside. This is just a gentle reminder that you are worthy and deserving of self-care.

hikingout posted 1/6/2020 13:35 PM

Hi Followtheriver -
It's funny you say that because I did understandably not do that very well over the last couple of weeks.

It's so weird though - because before I wouldn't have considered it, and I actually think I kept considering it too much. It was the first time I had been really in the space that I was pre-Affair when I was spreading myself too thin. Obviously a couple weeks is not going to hurt anyone, but I did find myself engaging in "super woman" tendencies and it was scary in some ways to see that kick back in. At the same time, needed, and with a beginning and an end. Unlike last time when I did it continually until I was an unhealthy mess. And, I did it as much as possible without having perfectionist tendencies - sometimes my house was a mess, and that would never have been the case before.

Not only did my husband have surgery, but by the time he was up and around my mom had a masectomy as well. I am glad to finally be back at work where I can rest I am so thankful he did the surgery though, he is a new man! He has put me on notice that in a month he is going to want to be going everywhere and doing everything and I better be prepared to join him