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SteveJames (original poster new member #67593) posted at 7:57 PM on Monday, June 17th, 2019
So nine months in. Things going well, thought I was keeping strong and positive. Now bam. Pressure of all the divorce related stuff is getting to me. Court, selling houses, dividing money.
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Lalagirl ( member #14576) posted at 8:07 PM on Monday, June 17th, 2019
I'm sorry, SteveJames.
You've probably been stuffing feelings and they're coming to the surface. Vent here...it may help.
Sending strength...
2025: Me-59 FWH-61 Married 41 years grown daughters- 41 & 37. 1 GS,11yo GD & 9yo GD (DD40); Five grands ages 15 to 8. D-day #1-1/06; D-day #2-3/07 Reconciled! Construction Complete. Astra inclinant, sed non obligant
cancuncrushed ( member #28156) posted at 8:39 PM on Monday, June 17th, 2019
been separated a year....just went thru mediation...and divorce....
I too thought I had gotten stronger...was dealing better....yet struggling ….
Divorce made it all come back...the communication made it all come back...the fighting made it all come back...
we are toxic...and nothing changed...
Hang in there...its closer...its not over...its another hurdle...two years from now, and you will be just fine.. 
that's what I tell myself...this will be a distant nightmare.
Just remind yourself, what if you had chosen to stay? you are moving forward.
Stay busy...prepare early....work out.
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BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 9:25 PM on Monday, June 17th, 2019
It cycles like waves, but they become less intense and further apart. Go back to basics - self-care, mindfulness, feeling all the feelings. It will pass....
Infidelity is such a #%#^%# gift.
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
J707 ( member #63778) posted at 9:43 PM on Monday, June 17th, 2019
Hey man, it hit me in cycles. Just when I thought I was good, Boom! They do lessen over time. You're in the thick of it and it will pass! When they say it is an emotional rollercoaster, well you know. Hang in there!
SheWrote ( new member #69849) posted at 2:55 AM on Wednesday, June 19th, 2019
Divorce is one of the hardest things to go through in life. I had an emotional breakdown following my divorce. Allow yourself to process what you are feeling. It is like a death... you are going to have to mourn your marriage and your spouse. There will also be anger and bitterness. Once you feel all of it, though it'll be painful, you will feel stronger and more free. And please do it sooner rather than later. I waited almost 15 years... but I am so much better now!!! You will be too. :)
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