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Nine Months
SteveJames posted 6/17/2019 13:57 PM
So nine months in. Things going well, thought I was keeping strong and positive. Now bam. Pressure of all the divorce related stuff is getting to me. Court, selling houses, dividing money.
[This message edited by SteveJames at 1:58 PM, June 17th (Monday)]
Lalagirl posted 6/17/2019 14:07 PM
I'm sorry, SteveJames.
You've probably been stuffing feelings and they're coming to the surface. Vent here...it may help.
Sending strength...
cancuncrushed posted 6/17/2019 14:39 PM
been separated a year....just went thru mediation...and divorce....
I too thought I had gotten stronger...was dealing better....yet struggling ….
Divorce made it all come back...the communication made it all come back...the fighting made it all come back...
we are toxic...and nothing changed...
Hang in there...its closer...its not over...its another hurdle...two years from now, and you will be just fine.. 
that's what I tell myself...this will be a distant nightmare.
Just remind yourself, what if you had chosen to stay? you are moving forward.
Stay busy...prepare early....work out.
[This message edited by cancuncrushed at 2:41 PM, June 17th (Monday)]
BearlyBreathing posted 6/17/2019 15:25 PM
It cycles like waves, but they become less intense and further apart. Go back to basics - self-care, mindfulness, feeling all the feelings. It will pass....
Infidelity is such a #%#^%# gift.
J707 posted 6/17/2019 15:43 PM
Hey man, it hit me in cycles. Just when I thought I was good, Boom! They do lessen over time. You're in the thick of it and it will pass! When they say it is an emotional rollercoaster, well you know. Hang in there!
SheWrote posted 6/18/2019 20:55 PM
Divorce is one of the hardest things to go through in life. I had an emotional breakdown following my divorce. Allow yourself to process what you are feeling. It is like a death... you are going to have to mourn your marriage and your spouse. There will also be anger and bitterness. Once you feel all of it, though it'll be painful, you will feel stronger and more free. And please do it sooner rather than later. I waited almost 15 years... but I am so much better now!!! You will be too. :)