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Another Great Post for Newbies to read

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minusone posted 4/3/2016 08:37 AM


theDrifter posted 4/3/2016 18:09 PM

Great original post and lots of wisdom in this thread. All experienced BS' s want newbies to understand the hard truths within this thread. There is a problem with this in that most of them won't absorb those things that they don't want to believe. They won't ignore them - they won't even see them. I've been in MC when the counselor spent 45 minutes going over things my wife wasn't acknowledging and things to do so she could learn more empathy. The counselor might tell me to make time for date night and, when we got in the car, my wife would start out with the "see? You're not trying hard enough". She literally did not hear/absorb a single thing the counselor said to her. She couldn't hear what she wasn't ready for.

So - newbies need to read this thread over and over to absorb the knowledge and wisdom contained in it.

Lovingmyselfmore posted 4/22/2016 18:16 PM


iheartWA posted 4/26/2016 09:54 AM

This original post is amazing. Just what I needed today.

minusone posted 5/2/2016 21:27 PM


mccloud posted 5/2/2016 22:33 PM

Wow! This was well written and a slap in my face. I am truly leaning towards leaving and getting on with my life. Thanks.

mchercheur posted 5/5/2016 16:37 PM


minusone posted 5/11/2016 21:06 PM


minusone posted 5/26/2016 05:39 AM


1brokengirl posted 5/28/2016 07:21 AM

Love this post. Thank u for putting things clearly & with diff scenarios to think about. ☺

minusone posted 6/3/2016 16:58 PM


BrokenheartedUK posted 6/4/2016 10:32 AM


BlackRose posted 6/5/2016 10:02 AM

Wow, well put! Thanks for sharing!

mchercheur posted 6/5/2016 10:36 AM

I just wanted to point out again that Nomadlady wrote this original thread. I thought it was absolutely one of the best threads I have ever read on this site. It helped me so much----thank you for writing it Nomadlady. I only wished that I had read it on Dday---perhaps I would have done things differently.
It even helps to re-read it from time to time, to re-evaluate the decisions I made.
The original thread was posted in General, so all I did was copy & paste it into the JFO forum, so that newbies would see it right away.

[This message edited by mchercheur at 10:53 AM, June 5th (Sunday)]

Lyonesse posted 6/7/2016 19:40 PM

bump for newbies

minusone posted 6/15/2016 12:39 PM


mchercheur posted 6/15/2016 22:21 PM


mchercheur posted 6/16/2016 21:15 PM


minusone posted 6/22/2016 06:26 AM


mchercheur posted 6/22/2016 14:13 PM


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