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Dontworrybehappy posted 2/16/2019 13:36 PM

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Dontworrybehappy posted 2/21/2019 14:45 PM

How are you guys feeling with the Kardashian-Jenner news?

Flmom posted 3/7/2019 20:16 PM

littleAvocet
Yes losing all your ‘friends’ is just another trauma to deal with that totally sucks. My WH and I are reconciling. I think some people may have stuck by me had I left him. I thought I would have left him too but he seemed to do a 180 degree shift into the person he is now. Either way, a friend doesn’t give you an ultimatum to leave your husband or I won’t be friends with you.

I still really despise the other woman, my former friend. 10 months out and still so much anger.

Flmom posted 3/7/2019 20:26 PM

“Feeling like an idiot”. A few people mention this and I felt betrayed and idiotic too unless I realized this fact, we were trusting that doesn’t make us idiots. My wh was also gaslighting me, because he was lying for 6 years. That is an evil form of manipulation which they use to throw us off. I learned a ton from a podcast about limerance. It was quite enlightening on the psychology of a person cheating and why they do the things they do. For ex) gaslighting, blame spouse for things which are not their fault, act erraticly etc. the podcasts have helped me more than IC and MC.

BetrayedPR77 posted 3/25/2019 18:05 PM

Ok, now to this side of the Forum.

When WW told me on DDay that she was having an A, for years, I immediately thought of calling the person who I thought could be the one who would helped me thru this horrible situation.

The person who helped me since I was in school.

The person who I ask for advice whenever I needed it. On anything.

The person whose family my Dad told me after my parents got divorced "if something happens to me and your mother, you can go and live with them" (our family is very small, I'm only child).

The person whose mother loves me as her son. And my Mom loves her.

The person my Dad trusted a lot, and considered him as his other son.

The person who helped me took care of my Dad five years ago, when he was dying from cancer.

The person who went with me to the funeral home to make the arrangements.

The person who helped me carry his body out of the bedroom when the mortuary people came.

The person to whom I trusted the problems I had with WW and listened and gave me advice...

He WAS more than my best friend. He WAS my brother. He WAS the one I was going to call for help when I knew about the affair.

And then, WW told me. He was the AP. For the last seven years...

JustTooGood posted 3/25/2019 22:29 PM

“Feeling like an idiot”. A few people mention this and I felt betrayed and idiotic too unless I realized this fact, we were trusting that doesn’t make us idiots. My wh was also gaslighting me, because he was lying for 6 years. That is an evil form of manipulation which they use to throw us off. I learned a ton from a podcast about limerance. It was quite enlightening on the psychology of a person cheating and why they do the things they do. For ex) gaslighting, blame spouse for things which are not their fault, act erraticly etc. the podcasts have helped me more than IC and MC.

FLmom, what podcast are you referencing? 11 months in and I'm still feeling pretty lost, so just looking anywhere at the moment for something to make me feel a bit more comforted.

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