He did it again and it brought it all back

First DD was in 2009. He had a 2 year affair with a "friend" of mine.

DD 2 I was away helping my mother move for the summer. His version…he was partying with a couple we are friends with and they were at another couple’s house. Our friends left but my husband stayed to continue partying. He was too drunk to drive and fell asleep on their couch. I guess they were swingers because husband said he woke up and they were naked and she was putting his hand between her legs. He called me right away and told me. A confession and an apology don’t make it go away.

DD 3. He went out of town for work. He went to a strip club. One of the strippers put her crotch in his face and he touched her with his tongue. Of course he got thrown out. I found out through a pm that his coworker sent and he finally admitted what he had done. That’s not cheating according to him. Oh and #2 wasn’t cheating either. He was a victim.

DD 4I don’t even remember the date. . I was away caring for my dying father His version…he was sitting around with friends on our deck and went into the house for something. One of our lady friends followed him in. She started kissing him. He kissed her back until my son walked in on them. My son didn’t tell me. I’m sure it was his dad’s idea. After a couple of years I think he was going to finally tell me so my husband told me. It wasn’t his fault. 😐

I’ve always taken him back. Now the last couple of weeks I have been thinking a lot about our relationship and what he has done. I am hurting. He is apologetic and promises it won’t happen again. It’s been a few years since the last episode and he has been very loving and transparent as far as I can tell. Suddenly after all of this time I am livid. Why is this hitting me so hard after all this time? Has this happened to anyone else?

7 comments posted: Tuesday, April 19th, 2022