BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 4:33 PM on Thursday, January 22nd, 2026
write this all down and put it somewhere you can reference back when you start to slip. Write down ALL of this cheating and suspicious, rude, disrespectful, or downright mean behavior. When you start to backslide, re-read it.
Also, for me, when I told my family what was going on, I knew that was it. I could never go back. So that was my insurance policy against myself.
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
cocoplus5nuts ( member #45796) posted at 7:13 PM on Thursday, January 22nd, 2026
I’ll never know the truth.
You know the truth. He's a liar, cheater, and abuser. Like HO said, he's trying to gaslight you. That's abuse. Don't let him.
Being on his best behavior after getting caught is a classic abuser tactic to maintain control. He will continue only until he thinks you have become complacent again. Then, he'll be right back to abusing you.
