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Sex is a normal human physiological behavior. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself — just enjoy it

Things were decent until he told me that when I have sex with him, he knows things are ok with me emotionally.

So I haven’t really had sex with him since then. Because it’s not ok. And if that makes him realize it, then fine.

The hysterical bonding after DDay 1 was very intense, and I had taken his blame shifting BS to heart so there was emotion and urgency behind it for me. After the HB period waned, I felt intense sadness and humiliation and "the ick" kicked in. I'd say that for me, the extreme high of HB was followed by an equally extreme low. I had to slow things down until I worked through some stuff.

@3yrsout wow - a comment like that would have made my blood boil I reckon.

I told my WH from the start that we will never make love again. I’ll f&ck him and that’s it. He took away the ‘specialness’ of love making when he took to sex outside our marriage. It is no longer a special bond we have together.

2 years out that’s exactly what it still is for me. Nothing more than a physical pleasure - no emotions attached. I do however think as a woman that nay be uncommon. But I’ve always been able to departmentalise when it comes to sex. 🤷🏼‍♀️

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I told my WH from the start that we will never make love again. I’ll f&ck him and that’s it. He took away the ‘specialness’ of love making when he took to sex outside our marriage. It is no longer a special bond we have together.

Of the many many losses associated with infidelity, this one hits hard for me. Emotional, connective, lovemaking was always special and dear to me. I miss it.