The "truth" is staring you right in the face. I’m not saying you have 100% truth but you know enough to know exactly what you are dealing with.
He’s manipulative and a known liar.
He’s cheated.
He’s not going to commit to monogamy or the kind of relationship YOU want.
His words mean nothing as evidenced by his shady behavior a few weeks after "catching" him.
I would like to point out that this may be a compulsive or addictive behavior for him. If that is true he will/may need professional help to overcome this behavior— if he truly wants to stop.
If he doesn’t want to stop then it will continue.
Most betrayed partners or spouses never get 100% of the truth. I would hate to see you investing time and energy and emotions into something that may not get you what you want.
I’d suggest getting some counseling for yourself to heal from this.
I understand you really want to nail him for this. However it most likely will not happen as liars and cheaters are like snakes - they Will slither away from the truth at every opportunity.
And even if you catch him, solid evidence - do you think he will admit it? Do you think he will beg for forgiveness? Do you think he will acknowledge he’s been caught?
You are better off IMO walking away and never looking back.
[This message edited by The1stWife at 10:33 AM, Friday, July 11th]