nekorb (original poster member #40306) posted at 9:21 PM on Tuesday, March 18th, 2025
***Trigger warning: mentions death and suicide
The brief background is: the OW committed suicide about 5 years ago. She and the ex were living together at the time along with my middle child and her youngest child.
Just found out the OW’s middle child (now over 18yo) overdosed and died over the weekend. Unsure if accidental or intentional, they are leaning toward accidental.
I know it’s irrational, but I blame the NPD ex. Maybe if you hadn’t been in a f’ed up abusive relationship with her she wouldn’t have killed herself. Maybe her kids wouldn’t have been traumatized and using drugs.
And maybe all of that still would have happened, but I guess we will never know.
The young person that died has a baby. And now the trauma continues to cycle through the generations.
It just PISSES ME OFF that they don’t think about the far reaching consequences of their actions.
Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 M - 22 Years
D-day: 7/2013; D filed 7/2014; Divorced 7-27-16
...the WS affair starts off in a dreamland where everything is all Golly, Wow! and Meant To Be! and Soul Mates drop from the trees to frolic in the mist. -devotedman
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 12:12 AM on Wednesday, March 19th, 2025
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
Justsomeguy ( member #65583) posted at 5:34 PM on Wednesday, March 19th, 2025
Sadly, trauma is transgenerational. I carry my own, gifted to me by my mother who was gifted by her step-father.
I'm an oulier in my positions.
Me:57 STBXWW:55 DD#1: false confession of EA Dec. 2016. False R for a year.DD#2: confessed to year long PA Dec. 2 2017 (was about to be outed)Called it off and filed. Denied having an affair in court papers.
Divorced
