DisillusionedInaz (original poster new member #85911) posted at 12:30 AM on Saturday, March 8th, 2025
My brain knows divorce is the right path at this time however, my heart says different. It’s difficult when I remember all the good things about him. All the things he did for me and our family. All the ways our marriage was great up until Dday. Obviously it wasn’t perfect, but for it to have gone downhill so quickly within the past year, after 13 years.
I know there are things we both need to work on and the healing needs to be done separately. It still stings. Some days I can barely breathe. I hate him and miss him at the same time.
Does this ever get easier?
leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 1:15 AM on Saturday, March 8th, 2025
Yes, it does get easier. It takes time and healing. Continue to work on your healing and allow yourself time to process through your feelings. For me, I went through the stages of grief more than once.
Hang in there.
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
IntoTheUnknown ( new member #84554) posted at 2:24 AM on Saturday, March 8th, 2025
I asked myself this question all the time DisillusionedInaz does this get easier.It’s hard to get your brain to process all of this information and then make it stick so that your heart doesn’t hurt anymore.I’m coming up on 2 years next Saturday of D day blowing up my whole world.Presently going through divorce after25 years and 37 together.You are not alone.
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 2:24 AM on Saturday, March 8th, 2025
The roller coaster will continue for a while. I found it helpful to have a little list of his most egregious betrayals and lies handy for when I felt my resolve melting. And over time I was able to really look at things and see them for them more realistically. The heart will catch up to the head.
Hang in there. Peace is coming. Sending strength and a virtual ((hug)).
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **