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You are in no way responsible for your WWs A. However, you are responsible for 50 percent of the state of your M and 100 percent of your personality.

I’m not a psychologist, and I obviously don’t know you other than for your posts. Despite the fact that your WW is absolutely not a good candidate for R, you are quite probably a worse candidate for R. At this point, to even consider R, tells me that you probably suffer from very low self esteem and can’t logically look at your current set of circumstances, which is presenting as desperation. Your WW, the master manipulator, no doubt sees you as desperate and is preying upon you.

Please take a step back and immediately stop this needy, desperate behavior. It’s making your situation worse, not better. I also wonder what kind of decision maker you are in general. Does your history show that you tend to make good decisions based upon a set of data and/or evidence presented?

Dude67 you have a PM.

On Wednesday we had set aside time to talk about an upcoming vacation but instead of having that conversation WW said she wants to try to reconcile and do couples counseling. Tuesday had been our consultation with an attorney-mediator and apparently the reality of the situation really hit her after that.

You can simultaneously pursue couples counseling while marching down the road to divorce. They aren’t mutually exclusive. Your goal can be to put yourself in the position where all that is left to do is to sign the form. You can go to that point 100% sure you will (or won’t) sign it, and there is still benefit in going to that point, where all is left is choice. A benefit for both of you.

Noodle on that.

Sending strength!

@BobTheBuilder How has it been going?

[This message edited by 1994 at 5:00 PM, Monday, August 7th]