Eleanore (original poster new member #74452) posted at 5:59 AM on Tuesday, March 14th, 2023
I resent my WH. Probably not for the reasons you think. I resent him for leaving me over 20 months ago and I haven’t had sex since then. His affair is robbing me of a healthy sex life. I should be getting laid every night and twice on Saturday. Meanwhile, he is doing whatever he wants and lying about it but, I made vows and they mean something to me. This has been such a huge waste of time that I will never get back and I will never forgive him for what he has taken from me. He asked me not to give up on him. Told me he would give me everything I asked for, all the information to make an informed decision. Still nothing. And I haven’t been touched in 608 days. Pathetic.
I don’t resent the affair, I resent what he has put me through since, what I have been made to sacrifice.
"I am out with lanterns trying to find myself " - Emily Dickinson
Dorothy123 ( member #53116) posted at 7:07 AM on Tuesday, March 14th, 2023
Eleanore, im sorry that you're hurting.
I do know that infidelity hurts in every way possible.
So, you have every right to be resentful.
"I’ll get you my pretty, and your little dog too!" Wicked Witch of the West.
MoonlightAndMagnolia ( new member #82774) posted at 5:40 PM on Tuesday, March 14th, 2023
I am so sorry Eleanore. That sounds so tough.
I suffer from a lot of resentment against my WH. I feel like our lifestyle gives him so much more freedom in life while I have been tied down to be the steady one in our household. Sacrificed career advancement to be there for our children while he gets to pursue what he wants. He can make plans without worrying about my schedule - I work from home M-F, 8-5 so am there for our 12 year old. And then he goes & has an EA (I guess you call it that) spending thousnds of dollars on OnlyFans and talking to thirst traps on Instagram. Giving them so much attention while I was carrying the full load of home.
Married since 3/1996
Shehawk ( member #68741) posted at 11:28 PM on Thursday, March 16th, 2023
"This has been such a huge waste of time that I will never get back"
Sorry you are experiencing this. It is very unjust
You have been heard
"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!
Notagain6526 ( new member #82911) posted at 11:33 PM on Thursday, March 16th, 2023
I feel so resentful that so much of my day is taking up trying to process what wh has done to my life. Resentful that this time is so precious with young children I don't want to waste a minute.
Resentful aged 39 I need to start again.
I'm sorry your experiencing this.