Topic is Sleeping.
Devon99uk (original poster member #82658) posted at 11:33 AM on Tuesday, January 3rd, 2023
Deleted - not ready to post 馃様
[This message edited by Devon99uk at 11:50 AM, Tuesday, January 3rd]
Cooley2here ( member #62939) posted at 11:56 AM on Tuesday, January 3rd, 2023
Your husband used the affair as a way to get high. Depression is so horrible that many people drink, use drugs, gamble or cheat. Women often go on spending sprees. Anything to get out of the sadness, even for a little while. I don鈥檛 excuse the cheating but he was headed for something and she came along.
He needs therapy, and possibly medication. I think you do as well. Neither of you have the capacity to help the other if you both continue to have depression.
It doesn鈥檛 sound as if she meant anything to him beyond the occasional high. What you do going forward is to take care of yourself. You cannot be a good mother if you are depressed. When you have a better outlook you can make decisions for your future.
This marriage sounds recoverable if both of you get help.
When things go wrong, don鈥檛 go with them. Elvis
annb ( member #22386) posted at 11:59 AM on Tuesday, January 3rd, 2023
Hi, Devon, sorry you decided to delete your post. I believe that's against the rules here, not sure.
All of us have walked in your shoes, please come back, you will find a great deal of support here from people who understand.
Sending a virtual hug....
ZenMumWalking ( member #25341) posted at 3:07 PM on Tuesday, January 3rd, 2023
((((Devon)))) <--- hugs to you
Please come back when you are ready, we understand.
((((Devon))))
Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen (in permanent S)
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now
Topic is Sleeping.
