I know how you feel!!! On my anniversary date when we were separated I knew he would email or something-but nothing. He was too busy with Slut.
I like the returning of cookie idea, but it’ll gmfeed into their world.
I realized if I stayed in the drama triangle they would have something to bond over-fighting with me. So... I went out of my way to appear extremely happy and confident if I see them anywhere. ~They even took me back to court to get the house and boat from me. I never said anything to them, I let my att handle it. I saw them a few days after the papers were served to me, at our child’s event. I wore makeup and chatted on the phone laughing and laughing with a friend til the event started. They seemed perplexed. At the court hearing my atty made xh and Slut look very incompetent. I won. I still just looked faraway when leaving the courthouse.
So. About my xh, after 2 years of xh and ow cheating then getting married, it started crumbling. The kids went there one Father’s Day. The slut and xh were fighting. My kids came home after 1 hour. They said —are you ready for this— OW was yelling at their Dad, hitting him, and locked him out of his own house!!!!! On Fathers day!!!! she told a lady I know from years ago that she is miserable! She looks miserable too!! They are two sick people who never got help-and now they have each other.
My sons very rarely go see him. I have tried to build a life with my sons, now 22 and 26.
I also realized that when I go somewhere, I don’t have to cringe that xh is going to be looking at women, or saying something inappropriate.
Keep moving forward. Maybe plan a small trip with one of your grown kids or a friend. (I went to Fl with sons soon after the D. We had a great bonding, relaxing time. It ate xh up that we could go on about our lives without him and have fun. He texted me and I deleted the text. )
[This message edited by homewrecked2011 at 8:36 PM, Wednesday, September 21st]
Sometimes He calms the storm. Sometimes He lets the storm rage, but calms His child. Dday 12/19/11I went to an attorney and had him served. Shocked the hell out of him, with D papers, I'm proud to say!D final10/30/2012Me-55