tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 3:08 PM on Monday, September 12th, 2022
You don't know what you don't know.
You are not protecting yourself or your rights by not only pushing the issue of the paternity test, but also pushing the issue for proof that she is legit pregnant.
Those of us that have been here a while can tell you that the pregnancy claim, with fake positive test and all is made often by the WW, to keep their spouse in the game, and to also play the AP.
It is highly manipulative, but never say never when it comes to shit a cheating spouse will pull.
You absolutely need to demand these 2 things, and now. I cannot tell you how many times over the years I have heard the early pregnancy thing from either the AP, or WW to control the situation, only to have a mysterious, unwitnessed miscarriage in the following week. It's common. VERY COMMON.
Kids: 22 & 25
Married for 30 years now, was 16 at the time.
D-Day Sept 26 2008
R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
Cooley2here ( member #62939) posted at 3:34 PM on Monday, September 12th, 2022
It takes about 5 minutes in a stairwell, car, against a tree to get pregnant. Get a DNA test. One way or another you will know.
Please inform the OBS. You are perpetuating a lie against an innocent person. It makes you part of the conspiracy. Keeping this kind of secrecy is unkind. Give her the right to her own story.
Your feelings of love are fear. Fear of the unknown and possibly a little co-dependency.
When things go wrong, don’t go with them. Elvis
Robert22205https ( member #65547) posted at 6:58 PM on Monday, September 12th, 2022
You need to find the courage to expose the affair to the mans' wife.
Spouses know. The OBS has observed her husband being: nervous, stressed out, distant and short tempered.
She is blaming herself, her pregnancy, and the new baby.
The reality is that there's another woman in their marriage (your wife) and on her husband's mind.
Please save this woman from blaming herself and thinking she's not a good enough wife.
Although church communities mean well - they do not have the training/experience to deal with infidelity.
Plus they often take the position to not tell the betrayed spouse. That what she doesn't know can't hurt her.
Failing to see that she already knows her husband is distant and drives herself crazy.
They are likely to just talk to the husband first. Then he'll promise to never do it again. He'll lie and say anything to avoid exposure to his wife.
If he was truly walking with God - he wouldn't have violated your marriage.
Justsomeguy ( member #65583) posted at 12:28 AM on Tuesday, September 13th, 2022
My MIL used to say that my EXWW was too busy to have an A. Guess what? She found the time to carry on an A that lasted a year. They hooked up in his truck while I was at work. Cheaters make time.
Me:55 STBXWW:55 DD#1: false confession of EA Dec. 2016. False R for a year.DD#2: confessed to year long PA Dec. 2 2017 (was about to be outed)Called it off and filed. Denied having an affair in court papers.