TurnedTurtle (original poster member #65603) posted at 10:20 PM on Wednesday, May 11th, 2022
Had divorce mediation this morning, and we've settled. I'll transfer about 22% of my retirement savings to her IRA. No ongoing commitment of support, in either direction... We've got some relatively minor business transition stuff and personal property retrieval to take care of, and she'll let me store my boat at her place at less-than-market rates for up to two years so I have time to find a new home for it, but otherwise we're done. Our lawyers will be writing up the agreement, and once we've both signed, they'll initiate the divorce filing with the court, we'll have an initial hearing with the court where we say "Yeah, this is our agreement," and ~60 days after that it should be finalized.
Yay!?
?
I am still sad.... 
"Secrets have a cost, they're not free, not now, not ever!"
DigitalSpyder ( member #61995) posted at 11:21 PM on Wednesday, May 11th, 2022
I feel you and understand, but at least things are moving forward for you. I'd rather rip off the bandaid than stay in a place where I don't know if I should.
Remember, that for every end there is always a beginning.
Post Tenebras Spero Lucem
leafields ( member #63517) posted at 11:34 PM on Wednesday, May 11th, 2022
It's one of those instances where you're sad & glad at the same time. Congratulations on getting through mediation relatively painlessly! (Happy dance.)
But, it's sad because it's the legal end of the M. I cried when they called & said that the D was final, too.
Keep us posted on how it's going.
BW, Dday 1: 2/18, Dday 2: 8/19, D final 2/25/21
Buster123 ( member #65551) posted at 4:25 AM on Thursday, May 12th, 2022
Being said is understandable, but get ready for a new and probably more exciting chapter of the rest of your life, congrats ! IMHO your M should have ended a long time ago, but better late than never.
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 4:45 AM on Friday, May 13th, 2022
Mixed feelings for sure, but the healing can really start now. Welcome to the other side.
Me: BS 55 (49 on d-day)Him: WH. 64. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
