I got to beat up my wife's AP in front of her. I pinned him down and could have done serious damage, but I let him up. He ran off yelling "I'm gonna call the cops". The cops took my statement and decided not to charge me.
A couple weeks later, his wife sent the pics of his bloody face to some of her friends and it got back to me. At the time, beating him up felt very good and got me through the first few weeks after dday. And looking at the pic later was also quite therapeutic.
A while later, the AP sent my wife some drunken text messages that I forwarded to his wife via text prefixed with "your dog got out of his cage and look at what he did". Knowing his wife, she probably ripped him a new one.
A couple months later, I ran into him in a parking lot and I stopped, stuck my chest out, and stared him down. He was very nervous and turned around to walk back into the store. This, however, made me feel like a thug and a bully and I vowed never to do that again.
He definitely deserved the butt kicking and it got me through the initial shock. But no amount of physical punishment I could have given out will match what I've gone through this whole ordeal. I'm just glad I was able to restrain myself before hurting him bad and getting into legal troubles. These past 6 months since dday have been very very toxic. I just want to put all this behind me know. No more thoughts of revenge on him.
Now... sometimes I have fleeting thoughts about revenge against my wife... but whenever I do, I remember how it would hurt our 3 small children and they pass quickly. Overall, she's a great mom and I would never want to do anything to tarnish her image in their eyes, despite the horrible things she did.
[This message edited by Lefonquey1 at 9:29 PM, Wednesday, December 1st]