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Divorce/Separation :
How do I find out, truly, if someone is divorced?

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 Hope2B (original poster member #40474) posted at 10:46 PM on Friday, November 19th, 2021

I've checked on the county registrar's website for Los Angeles county, and it appears that they don't do copies of divorce certificates or divorce decrees or whatever this is called. I figured I'd have to pay a fee but I didn't think I would get to a dead end.

I've gone round and round in circles with no results, & even sent an email request for more information a few weeks ago but no reply.

Does anyone have any ideas about this, whether it's even available to get?
Also, Is there such a thing as a confidential divorce record between adults? I know there's such a thing as a confidential marriage record between adults (for whatever reason). Thanks for any information!
Hope

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Hippo16 ( member #52440) posted at 11:54 PM on Friday, November 19th, 2021

what if?

What if they relocated to Nevada and rented a room (I think it is for 60 days) to establish residency and then divorced?

What if they "divorced" somewhere other than "Los Angeles" county?

Possibly a consideration - one of the on-line search engines (for ? $$) to search public records for a person?

I know they work - but one has to filter the results.

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hcsv ( member #51813) posted at 12:10 AM on Saturday, November 20th, 2021

Are court dockets searchable? search by name. I found all of COW's divorces, paternity and child support cases by searching her name in the court dockets.

[This message edited by hcsv at 12:18 AM, Saturday, November 20th]

After 40 years, ex turned into someone I didnt know and couldnt trust anymore. Divorced. 1/17

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 Hope2B (original poster member #40474) posted at 1:30 AM on Saturday, November 20th, 2021

I'm pretty sure, 99.999999%, that this occurred in Los Angeles county.
Also, I've done the online searches that want money for findings, from $1.00 to $12.99 (with auto-renew), they only find a court case regarding an auto accident and settlement. Nothing about marriage or divorce records.

Hcsv, when you did your search, was it for Los Angeles County? I'm not coming up with anything for L.A.
Thanks!
Hope

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hcsv ( member #51813) posted at 12:47 PM on Saturday, November 20th, 2021

No, I'm sorry, it was not.

After 40 years, ex turned into someone I didnt know and couldnt trust anymore. Divorced. 1/17

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Wiseoldfool ( member #78413) posted at 1:52 PM on Saturday, November 20th, 2021

Lacourt dot org and then the tab for "online services" and then “Divorce Judgment Document Order”

Welcome to the Divorce Judgment Document Order Web Site

The Superior Court of California, County of Los Angeles, in accordance with California Government Code sections 68150 (a) (f) (g), is providing certified copies of records maintained electronically by the Court through this site.

The Divorce Judgment Document Order site allows the public to order copies of divorce judgments without having to visit the Archives and Records Center (ARC). If your Family Law judgment is not available on-line, and if you are requesting a case that had a court hearing on or after January 2, 2018, the document may be available through the Court’s Case Document Images link. Click Here to access the Case Document Images.

You must have a case number to order through this site.

Click here to search for a case number.

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 Hope2B (original poster member #40474) posted at 8:42 PM on Sunday, November 21st, 2021

Thanks for the great instructions, Wiseoldfool. It's still a mystery as nothing showed up -- I paid by credit card & got info about court cases involving automobile stuff from 2001.

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Wiseoldfool ( member #78413) posted at 8:49 PM on Sunday, November 21st, 2021

It’s tough to know what to make of the absence of a "findable" record.

I can tell you this, take it for what it is worth.

I’ve been a divorce lawyer for thirty years. I’ve lost count of the number of times someone, almost always a woman, contacts me to see if I can confirm that the man she is seeing is in fact divorced. More than a few times I’ve discovered that not only is he not divorced, no one has even begun a divorce. Sometimes there is a divorce filed, but there’s been no activity on it for months. This is in spite of the fact that the man has described himself as "divorced."

Every secret you keep with your affair partner sustains the affair. Every lie you tell, every misunderstanding you permit, every deflection you pose, every omission you allow sustains the affair.

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 Hope2B (original poster member #40474) posted at 8:09 AM on Tuesday, November 23rd, 2021

Wiseoldfool,

Thank you again. I've sent you a private message.
Hope

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