Sigh. You have GOT to get your head away from all the people who have wronged you. I can't help but think this is making you sick. Clearly, you are obsessed with all the injustices you've endured. I get it, no one was more obsessive than I.
Don't call the diocese. You'll just change the opinion of yourself held by those who receive the information. And even skanky cheaters can be effective teachers, ask me how I know.
I grew up in a dysfunctional home. It was clearly not fair in any way, shape or form. It caused me to become hypervigilant in all my dealings. I lost myself, my joy, my confidence, in my attempt to understand and change the behavior of the people in my life. It made me sick. In my early 20s I found a counselor who said "you've clearly been shit upon. Now, are you going to let that affect the way you live the rest of your life, let your experiences cripple you forever? Or are you going to live your own life?" Her words changed me. My brother was equally abused as a child, turned to drugs, wound up in jail, had a counselor say very much the same thing. He's been sober 25 years.
12 step work would help you. An -anon program, Al-anon, S-anon, etc. You learn, and after hearing this message 100 times, come to understand that you have NO control over the actions of others, but TOTAL control over how you react to those actions, and can choose to not let it affect you.
You need to rebuild your life internally and let go of expectations that others should behave in certain ways. Otherwise, your trauma will seep into the souls of your kids creating generational trauma that will persist.
I get it. Your husband, his co-conspirators, your neighbors, your in-laws are all ignorant, uncaring people who have wronged you and your kids. They truly did! You can choose to let them live in your head or choose to evict them and live a happy, drama free life.
Let go and let GOD.
I'm holding you in the LIGHT.