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Reconciliation :
A New Way To Deal


 icangetpastthis (original poster new member #74602) posted at 11:41 PM on Sunday, October 3rd, 2021

Nightmares and almost everyday upon waking - it is the first thoughts in my head - his cheating. His betrayal and apologies. Then more tears. Hate this. I don't want to live my life like this. This morning at mass the priest talked of inviting Jesus into marriage. So simple. I realized that I need a prayer to start my day, and I want to create it. I'm not good with this, so I googled to find one. I copied and pasted it into a new memo in my cellphone memo app. Made edits. I can now pull it up as many times in the day as needed and change the wording if I need to, so it is right for me. I feel so much relief that I was able to do this. Today was better - for me.

M = 43 yrs
DDay = March 2020
Me/BS = 62
WH = 64
Working on reconciliation, one day at a time.

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sisoon ( Guide #31240) posted at 4:42 PM on Monday, October 4th, 2021

Thank you for sharing this.

fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.

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The1stWife ( member #58832) posted at 4:49 PM on Monday, October 4th, 2021

Stopping yourself from reliving the trauma, pain and betrayal takes time.

And a commitment to a change in tour mindset.

8 years out and I can tell you it is no longer the first thing I think if each day — but it was for too long.

It’s the healing you need to do for yourself that will help you. The cheater can only do si much snd unfortunately the rest is in the betrayed.

You can choose to live with the black cloud over your head or you can choose to heal to the best if your ability and move away from the dark cloud.

Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled.

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Want2BHappyAgain ( member #45088) posted at 6:36 PM on Monday, October 4th, 2021

I always say that whatever helps the BS to long as it is legal...DO IT grin !! You seemed to have found an EXCELLENT way to help in your healing...good for you smile !! You definitely can't go wrong with prayer smile .

A "perfect marriage" is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.

With God ALL things are possible (Matthew 19:26)

I AM happy again...It CAN happen!!!

From respect comes great love...sassylee

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