I bet a lot of us have had this happen. Ex was super supportive of OW and even others in their lives, but constantly put you, the spouse, down.
I was VERY supportive of WH. My family helped us financially. I am a generally nice person. I am relatively attractive.
Friends have asked WH, "How did you land her?" Our daughter has even asked this.
So why did WH tell his family to be nice and accept his OW? Make her come on vacation with them? Why didnt he tell them i was important? To Be nice to me?
Why did he stick up for OW2 and tearfully tell me, shes like a sister since my family has rejected me. But I will give up a friend relationship with her if thats what u want.
As a former adulterer, he should have dropped contact with his "friend" immediately when I asked. Instead he went to bat for her.
Ow 1, he paraded around his family. So much so MIL told me, "its a shame about ow1, she had such a great career" when she heard that she was on mental health leave. She told WH she was answering Ow1’s calls after he dumped her bc "that poor girl needs someone to talk to"
Its like i was living in Bizarro World! WH and his family treated ME like I was the unreasonable and unstable OW and treated OW like family.
And honestly, the teal question i should be asking is Why did you stay so long, Gotta? There are a lot of reasons for that. Family, finances, the thrill when he did treat me nicely.
I just cant imagine WH having a great wife like me, loyal to a fault! and not cherishing us our marriage our family and our kids?
[This message edited by Gottagetthrough at 2:19 PM, Tuesday, September 21st]