freetogonow (original poster Member #57821) posted at 7:57 AM on Tuesday, September 14th, 2021
This thought entered my mind LOL.
All of this is pretty new to me. Because I didn't entice, draw, or foment any sort of male attention for the past 30 years, right? I was faithful. I never even looked at another man. It just never entered my mind.
But in the past several months...the happier I get, that's all changed.
I've had men offer me their phone numbers, I've had men ask for mine. I had a "who is that, introduce me to her" type situation come up tonight that just made me laugh because it was SO obvious and SO contrived, and they (the mutual male friend doing the introductions and the guy being introduced) were just trying so hard to be casual about it but it was SO OBVIOUS. I laughed and flirted a little but I also rolled my eyes.
I don't think every man I lay eyes on is after my lucky charms but I feel like there's way damn more out there, who are, that it never occurred to me, would be! It's kind of awesome knowing I could get laid in 30 seconds if I really wanted.
Anna123 ( Member #70908) posted at 2:42 PM on Tuesday, September 14th, 2021
The challenging part is realizing it's the ones who boldly approach you who are quite often the ones who are after your Lucky Charms, but only the marshmallows:-) I always wonder about the socially more reserved guys that are probably much better options, who are interested in the non-marshmallow parts as well. Meeting them is a little more tricky.
freetogonow (original poster Member #57821) posted at 4:09 PM on Tuesday, September 14th, 2021
ha ha I love it!!! They only want the marshmallows, like a six year old!
Welp. No boys for me any more. Grown men only need apply. But I can't lie, it's pretty epic feeling like, "got-dang, there's men who would want me even when he didn't. More than one!"
I just have to watch it because I'm a raging codependent in recovery, and I can't go around getting my self esteem from whether or not some guy wants to bang me. I spent my entire life in this mindset and I ain't going back to that.
HeartFullOfHoles ( Member #42874) posted at 4:24 PM on Tuesday, September 14th, 2021
And some of us are happy with plain cereal, since we know it is better for us in the long run. Now of course if some marshmallows find their way into the cereal, who's going to complain about that .
BH - Tried to R for too long, now happily divorced
D-Day 4/28-29/2012 (both 48 at the time)
Two adult daughters
Sofarsogood ( Member #71991) posted at 4:59 PM on Tuesday, September 14th, 2021
You're coming into your own, plus the fact that you have good character. Others are picking up on that and are attracted to that. Do whatever makes you feel secure, and enjoy that attention (you deserve it!)
countrydirt ( Member #55758) posted at 12:35 AM on Thursday, September 16th, 2021
Good for you freetogonow! And yes, as a representative of the male gender, we are always after the Lucky Charms!
But also as a member of the aforementioned gender, I've had the same thoughts coming from your side of spectrum! I got married way back in the day when there were a few more "polite" conventions about dating and sex. Men had to work very hard for sex back then and women could get it any time they wanted.
In the interim 30+ years, things certainly changed! I consider myself decent looking, but I'm no George Clooney (or whoever is being panted over now). Hell, I'm bald, have a gray goatee and just a wee bit of a paunch. I now realize that I can pretty much get laid anytime and I'm not complaining!
It is a fun world we are living in now!
3 sons (mostly grown)
Married 32 years. DDay1 - June 2016, DDay 2 - April 2017, Final DDay - May 2020. Divorced - January 2021
HalfTime2017 ( Member #64366) posted at 5:01 PM on Thursday, September 16th, 2021
Freetogonow- I dont know your age, but if you've been married for to your exh and attached for 30 yrs, youre at the very least middle age. Let loose the lucky charms and enjoy your life. If you're just starting in the dating scene again, don't get attached too quickly again and just have a good time.
Enjoy your singlehood and LIVE. You have have survived infidelity and are single. Go be a HO. LOL