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Anyone else feel self care is overwhelming?


Jeaniegirl ( member #6370) posted at 2:43 AM on Tuesday, October 5th, 2021

Plan ahead! Start sticking some $$ back every week and plan to take off alone and go to a nice hotel. Soak in that tub all you want! Go have dinner at the top of the CNN tower if you are close enough. smile And you need to find yourself a self-contained camper of sorts -- and renovate it since you are so good at that sort of thing! Put it WAY out back and use it for "Mom's time out Place" and don't let anyone come near. smile

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 DragnHeart (original poster member #32122) posted at 12:41 AM on Wednesday, October 6th, 2021

Part of self care is also distancing or cutting out toxic people.

Something i have a 50/50 record with.

I have kept wh family at arms length which has done me well. However i have not done the same with my own and its come back to bite me in the ass.

Nothing in the world can ever make my father happy. He could become a millionaire tomorrow and still be the grumpiest man alive. Nothing anyone does is ever good enough or what HE would do.

He blames me for the "family falling apart" on my moms side when i as a kid.

He says its my fault all of my children were born small and have issues. Ya know if ONLY i wasnt sick the entire time i was pregnant they would be normal. rolleyes

Yes my parents have done a lot for me but my father's constant put downs is depressing. And its every time i speak with him. If i don't call them in a while he will call me and bitch that i don't call. If i do call them to check up i get bombarded with every mistake I've ever made...

Its a no win situation.

And now with the kids going through special testing i am stressed to the max trying to get everyone on the same page on hoe to best help them. I dont need added stress.


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