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Covid lonliness


 Gottagetthrough (original poster Member #27325) posted at 5:49 AM on Friday, August 27th, 2021

Im feeling so darn lonley these days. I used to have lots of acquaintances pre covid that i no longer have. I still have my close friends who are far away, one is close by and another is sort of close and i see her some…

But those moms at sports that my kids aremt doing, or school, or friends of WH’s that he lost, and even friends who have passed away (i had two older family friends pass, not due to covid, in the past 2 years)

Add in that we arent seeing WH’s family, 6 is good but if was social interaction, even if it was toxic…

I just feel like a hole i. My life with the people Ive lost- either bu death, change of circumstances, or cutting out toxic people.

Just kinda bummed.

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Shehawk ( Member #68741) posted at 2:01 PM on Friday, August 27th, 2021

Sending virtual hugs. This is a tough time.

I know there is still a covid risk in social interactions

I wonder if there might be a safe place to volunteer? Or some safer activities where you might meet some new friends?

I volunteered to hand out ribbons at a local 🐴🐎 show this past weekend. It was fun. I got to meet people in an outdoor setting so that felt safer to me.

I also have a new friend I met through 🌺🌹 exchanges. I have been growing flowers during covid and giving plants to first responders/essential workers. We message every few days and have met up outside a couple of times.

It can feel lonely. I know many people can relate and hope you find some new pals you enjoy interacting with!!

I am sure other people will have some ideas too.

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tushnurse ( Member #21101) posted at 5:56 PM on Friday, August 27th, 2021

We are all just starting to see the damage the isolationism taken to extremes is doing to people.
For someone like me that is pretty much an introvert, and content to spend my time with myself, my family, and my animals, well it's not a big deal.

But if you are a social person and you have cut out the routine interactions it is hard on you. If you are such person figure out some things you can do to increase interaction with others. It is ok to be around people, just wear your mask socially distance, and wash your hands frequently.

We are seeing increased numbers of depression not just in kids and teens as mentioned in another thread earlier this week but also in our older population. I have 3 women I speak with weekly right now that have no medical issues, but they are so damned lonely and depressed I figure if I can talk to them for 10 minutes and get them thinking about anything other than what's on the damned TV, and feeling good then it helps.

Get out and enjoy the beauty of nature, and keep your body moving it helps. This won't last forever, even though it feels like it right now.

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Kids: 21 &23
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D-Day Sept 26 2008
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whatisloveanyway ( Member #66450) posted at 6:32 PM on Friday, August 27th, 2021

What tushnurse said. It's isolating even in good circumstances, and loneliness is hard to avoid. I can get pouty when I think no one is checking in on me the way check in on them, but honestly we are all unravelling a bit lately in this never ending pandemic and shit news cycle. I've always been good at being a loner, but I am a social creature too. We moved away last year, and have a neighborhood couple to socialize with that is as anxious about exposure as us, but it's not the same as having old friends or acquaintances or other diverse groups to talk to.

That said, I'm grateful covid has made it easy for me to avoid toxic people and trim down to the bare essentials of friends and family because I don't need the anxiety. I have so little left to give right now. I just had the pleasure of a fast but furious visit with 3 dear friends, and interestingly, it was hard socializing with so much going on at once, and a little disorienting, maybe, carrying on for a day like everything was normal, then back to the reality. I found we have better longer phone conversations than we managed in our short visit, mostly because there were 4 of us talking at once and so much time - 2 years- since we had met in person.

My newly single friend has been filling the void with overnight pet fostering with outdoor hand off of the animals, and she has met some nice people. I agree getting outside helps, going to open air venues with music or craft fairs has helped me feel less isolated. That you recognize your loneliness is a good thing, so you can take work through it, and we all wish you luck finding connections and meaning moving forward.

BW: 61 WH: 61 Both 57 on Dday. M: 34 years, 2 grown kids, 9 year Affair with MOW, 7 month False Recovery, year + trickle truth. I got rid of her. Reconciling, but the lies have piled up. Trying one more time.
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 Gottagetthrough (original poster Member #27325) posted at 3:27 PM on Saturday, August 28th, 2021

Its so funny, i have actually done most of what everyone suggested!

I think maybe this has deeper reasons than Covid.

I just started welbutrin on thursday, so hoping it can help me out of my funk

[This message edited by Gottagetthrough at 3:32 PM, Saturday, August 28th]

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DragnHeart ( Member #32122) posted at 11:25 PM on Saturday, August 28th, 2021

Geez woman you have so much going on no wonder you are in a funk. Glad you have meds. Give it time. Hou will get out of this funk.

Me: BS 44 nowWH: 35 almost 36 (BrokenHeart911)Four little dragons.Met 2006. Married 2008. Dday of LTPA with co worker October 19th 2010. Knew about EA with ow1 before that.Full disclosure March 8th 2019 four AP's.

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