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Divorce/Separation :
Why is his bday so hard for me??


 Notagain1 (original poster new member #78464) posted at 7:14 PM on Monday, August 2nd, 2021

So I should probably get some 2x4s across the head! It's WH bday....I looked at his Facebook bday posts, saw them all and got really sad. 90+ people wish him happy and they have no idea what a piece of crap he is. I just wish they all knew!!!

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stubbornft ( member #49614) posted at 7:34 PM on Monday, August 2nd, 2021

Did you make a big deal about his birthday in the past? I think WS birthday will be really hard for me, because I always made his birthdays so special & got him thoughtful gifts. He had a bday while we were attempting R and it was hard for me. I still made him a cake from scratch and took him to dinner but it was much less than I usually did.

Because I made a big deal of his birthday it was just another thing that made me feel like I wasn't enough. He never did big birthdays before he met me and he said it made him feel so special that I made his birthday a big deal. But it wasn't enough to keep him from cheating.

I don't think you deserve 2x4s. If today is hard let it be hard. Hang in there. I think all of the "firsts" without them are going to be rough. But once we do the "first" of each of these things, I think it gets easier.

[This message edited by stubbornft at 1:34 PM, August 2nd (Monday)]

Me: BS 40
Him: WS 51
He cheated with massage parlor sex workers
Dday 01/19/2021

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BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 3:15 AM on Wednesday, August 4th, 2021

Its the first one. i was the same way.

Why are you looking at FB ? They don’t care about him - it just popped up and they wrote happy birthday. No actual fucks given. Block him. Stay away. There is just no good there. (Minor 2x4… )

A couple years after our S/D, I realized his birthday only later in the day when I typed it. Time will work its magic. Hang in there!

Me: BS 54 (49 on d-day)Him: WH. 64D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA
Kinda liking my new life :-)

**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **

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Justsomeguy ( member #65583) posted at 4:24 AM on Thursday, August 5th, 2021

I actually forgot my STBXWW's birthday this year. It was my week with the kids, and my older daughter asked if I could pick up some baking ingredients so she could make something for her mother. I asked what the big day way...oh, birthday...🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Me:53STBXWW:51DD#1: false confession of EA Dec. 2016. False R for a year.DD#2: confessed to year long PA Dec. 2 2017 (was about to be outed)Called it off.Denied having an affair in court papers.

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