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 20yrsagoBS (original poster Member #55272) posted at 10:06 PM on Tuesday, July 20th, 2021

Sleeping next to someone who cheated, then lied about it for decades is a trip

He wants to be close to me

I have explained that I was never close to him, the REAL him

He kept that person from me. My marriage was to the mask he wore

So why does he think I am at all open to laying close to him?

I’m simply biding my time before I go

BW, 54 WH 53
When you lie down with dogs, you wake up with fleas

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Cooley2here ( Member #62939) posted at 10:17 PM on Tuesday, July 20th, 2021

Sounds like you married chaos. What a family.

Get therapy for you abuse. I suggest EMDR. Ask for someone who specifically in it.

To thine own self be true. Shakespeare

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LadyG ( Member #74337) posted at 1:58 AM on Friday, July 23rd, 2021

There’s a lot of sadness in your post and I get it.

Stbxwh always wanted me to lay with my head on his chest. He has my name tattooed inside a heart right on that spot.

He was also a spooner. He spooned me during the exit A.

I feel sick thinking about it even now.

This is a person who refused to get out of bed at 7am for his daughter’s wedding (he missed it) but often snuck out of bed and out of the house at 4am and 6am to go f*** the exAP.

Isn’t impossible for me to get my head around it, yet he wants my arms around him, to hold him and comfort him.

September 26 1987 I married a monster. Chronic Complex PTSD. I Need Peace. Fiat Lux. Buddha’s Love Saves Me 🙏🏼

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leafields ( Member #63517) posted at 4:54 AM on Friday, July 23rd, 2021

My XWH wouldn't hardly touch me. We bought a new bed, which I hoped would initiate intimacy, but didn't.

When splitting assets, he kept that bed.

Me: BW
Married 34 years, 3 DS
DDay #1: March 26, 2018, DDay #2 8/26/2019
Filed for D: 11/16/2020
D Final: 2/25/2021

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