She continues to gaslight me, denying that anything was going on with them and saying that it’s “only a crush”.
What nonsense, didn't she say in the last conversation she was in love with him? Didn't you remind her of that?
She said it’s unfair for me to give her an ultimatum by telling her she has to cut him out of her life, or lose me.
Yes, you gave her this ultimatum in the beginning. But I guess that's not the case anymore, is it?
Make it clear to her; you don't give her an ultimatum, on the contrary, you let her do what she wants, but you don't have to put up with it either, you just get out of her way. She can be happy, she is free now.
Then she started crying and saying that she couldn’t believe this was happening and that she was shocked I would even think about leaving her high and dry with nobody, and then even take her dog away from her.
No, that's not right, she has Mark, her most important, supportive and best "friend".
Btw, i know you love that puppy but you can leave him to her, by explaining you didn't want anything about her, of course.
You can adopt a new puppy in your new city.
About a pick me dance, i understand you. It may seem so in its written form here, but I'm sure it doesn't look like that with tones of voice, gestures and facial expressions.
Because I went through something very similar.
I was constantly arguing with my ex-GF during the breakup. Once again, I found myself in a pointless discussion on the phone and I was tired of her lies, gaslighting etc. While she was talking nonstop, I stopped her and asked, "do you love me" in a serious tone, there was silence for a while, no answer, this time I raised my voice even more and asked again "do you love me", this time with a faint muttering "no" the answer has come. "Okay then, why are we even fighting? Thank you for your honest answer," I said and hung up without waiting for any response.
It might look like I was doing pick me dance because I asked her twice if she loved me, but believe me, it wasn't. Actually, that wasn't even a question, I knew the answer, I just wanted to stop those silly fights.
Here, too, CheesecakeBaker posed the question he knew the answer to and put an end to WW's meaningless accusations.
It’s like she’s finally realized that I’m serious about leaving and now she is panicking and spiraling.
You obviously don't mean much to her, frankly, she's not even paying you the attention she should be giving to Plan B. But on the other side, I guess Mark isn't making a full commitment to her either. I guess that's why it's the fear of being alone.
[This message edited by guvensiz at 3:20 PM, July 8th (Thursday)]