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Been D’d about 4.5 years now. Yesterday I dropped Bug Mister off at XW’s house and there was a new sign on the door.

Let’s pretend her new last name is Bullfrog (it’s not.). And let’s pretend my last name is Swordfish (it’s not). She is married to OM2. We spit custody of Big Mister 50/50

The sign on door is a welcome sign. It says welcome to the “Bullfish” (not the real name) home.”

It’s a little more jarring in real life. I can’t decide how I feel about this. - well I guess I feel offended and annoyed/pissed. I can’t decide if I’m justified and what to tell myself to not let it bother me. Any feedback?

Perhaps she did this as a way to include your son as his last name (presumably) is Swordfish.

Just something to consider.

Your son also lives there,and has your last name,I assume.

I think she is showing respect for your son,by putting his name on the door,along with hers.

Let's say she didn't. It was just The Bullfrog home. How might that make your son feel? Left out? Like this wasn't his home as well? After all, he isn't a Bullfrog.

She didn't put YOUR name on the door. She put her son's name on the door,which also happens to be your name.

They are idiots. Gahhhh I can see OW doing this. It could just say welcome. Or Bullfrog Swordfish home.,She probably hasn’t had an argument with anyone lately and is trying to reel you in for a conversation so she can let off steam. (But she may/may not have that type of self awareness). It’s about the time she probably is starting to have moments of reality hitting her in the face about her decisions. And she sees that you are doing pretty well in your own and is a great Dad to your child. She might have the mentality of a junior high meddler. She could be trying to impress the neighbors and you of her creativity skills. I work with a lot of women in a store who stay up at night doing/thinking of this kind of crap.

Grey rock. Do not give one mention of this or she will paint it on the mailbox, the sides of the house, have T-shirts’ made, etc., what’s she gonna do when her current H leaves her, start Xing out parts of the names., and replacing them?

[This message edited by homewrecked2011 at 12:03 AM, February 28th (Sunday)]

It's cringey but I don't think it's worth losing sleep over.

There was a BH here whose XWW kept all of her previous husband's names separated by hyphens and he use to joke it was a good warning to future suitors. So maybe when she's on husband #3, her welcome sign will say "The Dogbullfish family".

Edit: He doesn't post anymore but his username is Allatsea if you want to read his posts.

[This message edited by nekonamida at 10:01 AM, February 27th (Saturday)]

It was a corny and rather tone-deaf way to make your son feel included. I think rolling your eyes and laughing is the appropriate response.

Ehvlet it roll.

Big Mr is a Swordfish right.

S9 they can be bullfrogs but you know Swordfish rule.

Lol.

Just part of the new normal. But not worth upsetting the balance you have managed with bitchtits and comparenting.

[This message edited by tushnurse at 12:40 PM, February 27th (Saturday)]

She's nuts.

Thanks everyone!

Yes, she was trying to include my son. I am grateful that she and I both think Big Mr. is the bomb-diggety.

Cringey and tone deaf. That’s it.

It was just jarring to see. Now it’s worth an eye roll.

I appreciate the feedback everyone!

Make your own sign, project with Big Mister welcome to the swordfish home. It sucks they don’t acknowledge his last name, but your love does that.

Yes, she was trying to include my son. I am grateful that she and I both think Big Mr. is the bomb-diggety.

SMH, wouldn't Bullfrog & Swordfish Home be more accurate?

My lizard brain doesn’t want my name on her door at all. She gave that up. She can’t use it any more.

But at the end of the day, it’s not a hill worth fighting for.

My lizard brain doesn’t want my name on her door at all. She gave that up. She can’t use it any more.

Can't really stop that unless you change the kids name. At least there's an end date to that.