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Outoflove2020 ( member #72682) posted at 4:23 PM on Monday, December 7th, 2020
TA, keeping everything crossed for you for the biopsy results. You are strong, badass woman, and you are handling everything so well. Keep your focus on the path you are on, and you will come out the other side.
DDay 1/15/2020.
Separated 3/1/2020
Still healing but in a better place
Shockedmom ( member #44708) posted at 7:05 PM on Monday, December 7th, 2020
Hoping for good results. I am glad you were able to sign the documents to keep the divorce proceedings moving forward. Make sure you sign up for insurance as soon as possible.
Thrownaway29 (original poster member #71233) posted at 5:18 AM on Tuesday, December 8th, 2020
The bone marrow biopsy came back clear!!! They did find that I have a protein in my blood that can indicate multiple myeloma, which is a different type of cancer. Will see the oncologist in 6 months.
[Outoflove2020. You are strong, badass woman, and you are handling everything so well. Keep your focus on the path you are on, and you will come out the other side] I don't know about being a badges or handling things well but I am focused on ensuring I can take care of my son!!
[Shocked mom. Make sure you sign up for insurance as soon as possible.] I carry my own insurance through my employer all ready. I have previously covered our son that will change once we see the judge so I will have extra money in my paycheck since I won't have the expense of the insurance.
Thank you everyone for the thoughts and prayers.
Married 1995DDY 1 EA lasted a few years I knew the whole time a swept it under the rug.DD2 July 11, 2019Trying to R but tired of the lies.DD3 8/31/20 Didn't get over the anger/ hurt fast enough for him so he decided to go back to her. Divorce finalized J
The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 7:23 AM on Tuesday, December 8th, 2020
Glad for a great outcome. Stay healthy.
Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 12 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.
CallingSpades ( member #71287) posted at 5:52 PM on Tuesday, December 8th, 2020
Glad to hear your good news!
Me BS/40
WH 40 EA/PA, DDay 5/19
M 12 years, 2 kids.
Filed for D 1/2020
BigMammaJamma ( member #65954) posted at 9:41 PM on Tuesday, December 8th, 2020
I have been following your story and I just am so glad to hear your update. Keep moving forward, you are inspiring!
Me- born in 1984Him- born in 1979We both have 2 kids from previous marriages and we share a four year old. I might be a BS, but at this point, I don't know if I'll ever know.
Update: As of 5/8/2020, my WH confirmed I belong in this club
Thrownaway29 (original poster member #71233) posted at 4:27 AM on Sunday, December 13th, 2020
I have completed the court required parenting course. I got 100% on all three parts. My son says well mom you are a great parent, we knew that... I had to laugh. Waiting on Stbxh to do the course.
Had a bad week with a day from heck with him over the AP throwing a fit because I sent her a text. It was very short and bland but stbxh got really mad and tore me apart. Then realized later what he did and kept apologizing. I said directly to him "this is exactly why I refused to cancel the appointment with the attorney". Told him if he thinks he is going to talk to me that way he can think again. He can either pull his head out of his butt or we can just stop talking all together. He started apologizing for being an a**hole. Guess we will see how that goes. ** edited my typos
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Married 1995DDY 1 EA lasted a few years I knew the whole time a swept it under the rug.DD2 July 11, 2019Trying to R but tired of the lies.DD3 8/31/20 Didn't get over the anger/ hurt fast enough for him so he decided to go back to her. Divorce finalized J
Thrownaway29 (original poster member #71233) posted at 6:00 PM on Saturday, January 2nd, 2021
I found out yesterday that my dissolution hearing is scheduled for the end of the month. It will be a zoom hearing. It's really sad that things are at this point. Sadly I think reality has hit him the face that he has made a huge mistake. I will not cancel the hearing. I am moving forward with life if over time he can show he is working to correct what he has done then maybe we can see about possibilities but there are no promises. I am at the point that I am not asking him to work through things, I am willing to watch him and see where he is at but I am not making any promises or big decisions until I get through the hearing and have the final papers from the court and have time to settle into life.
Married 1995DDY 1 EA lasted a few years I knew the whole time a swept it under the rug.DD2 July 11, 2019Trying to R but tired of the lies.DD3 8/31/20 Didn't get over the anger/ hurt fast enough for him so he decided to go back to her. Divorce finalized J
jb3199 ( member #27673) posted at 11:26 AM on Tuesday, January 5th, 2021
but I am not making any promises or big decisions until I get through the hearing and have the final papers from the court and have time to settle into life.
Very, very smart. There is NO reason that you should not protect yourself emotionally AND FINANCIALLY. So many people miss this importance.
BH-50s
WW-50s
2 boys
Married over 30yrs.
All work and no play has just cost me my wife--Gary PuckettD-Day(s): EnoughAccepting that I can/may end this marriage 7/2/14
Thrownaway29 (original poster member #71233) posted at 5:42 AM on Wednesday, January 6th, 2021
Thank you I am trying to protect myself as much as possible. My son is my focus at this time. Just getting through is very very rough.
Married 1995DDY 1 EA lasted a few years I knew the whole time a swept it under the rug.DD2 July 11, 2019Trying to R but tired of the lies.DD3 8/31/20 Didn't get over the anger/ hurt fast enough for him so he decided to go back to her. Divorce finalized J
Thrownaway29 (original poster member #71233) posted at 5:42 AM on Wednesday, January 6th, 2021
Message posted 3 times. Sorry
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Married 1995DDY 1 EA lasted a few years I knew the whole time a swept it under the rug.DD2 July 11, 2019Trying to R but tired of the lies.DD3 8/31/20 Didn't get over the anger/ hurt fast enough for him so he decided to go back to her. Divorce finalized J
Thrownaway29 (original poster member #71233) posted at 5:42 AM on Wednesday, January 6th, 2021
Message posted 3 times. Sorry
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Married 1995DDY 1 EA lasted a few years I knew the whole time a swept it under the rug.DD2 July 11, 2019Trying to R but tired of the lies.DD3 8/31/20 Didn't get over the anger/ hurt fast enough for him so he decided to go back to her. Divorce finalized J
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