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Madhatters Only - Part 2

SI Staff posted 10/19/2020 17:58 PM

This thread is restricted to MadHatter's

[This message edited by SI Staff at 5:58 PM, October 19th (Monday)]

BraveSirRobin posted 10/19/2020 20:22 PM

Thank you!!

leavingorbit posted 10/21/2020 15:40 PM

Thank you!! Iíve been ducking in and checking to see if we had hit a new thread yet.

Howís everyone doing? Weíve been weathering the start of the new school year, tackling more communication barriers. Everyday feels like an opportunity, even if itís a testing time (lots of those).

I feel a lot stronger than I did a year ago. H says he does, too. One day at a time. ✌️

WalkinOnEggshelz posted 10/22/2020 08:53 AM


Mickie500 posted 10/22/2020 20:43 PM

I have decided nobody likes a MH. 😔

leavingorbit posted 10/23/2020 10:47 AM

Hi, Mickie. How have you been doing? I remember feeling like that sometimes during the first year. Itís a big tangle to navigate.

Mickie500 posted 10/23/2020 11:31 AM

Iím a mess really. I keep feeling like I need to feel something different - I keep need to answer to the pain that is in the pit of my stomach. Itís like there is a beast inside me and it growls at me every time the mind movies start or I am triggered by something and it demands retribution. The eye for an eye kind of retribution.

WalkinOnEggshelz posted 2/6/2021 16:14 PM


TonsOfSteel posted 2/9/2021 11:35 AM


Finally, I figured out how to post to this thread.

I am really struggling. My BW and I are mad hatters. She f***ed her ex before we got engaged, and then initiates contact with him because she "feels bad" about how it went.

I had never cheated before this relationship, but acted out, had patterns of a SLAA, and even had an EA. I haven't slept with anyone but my wife since we met.

She has.

The latest infidelity came when she reached out to her ex on social media, and I joined the app she was on, and then I got the "Oh, by the way..." speech. She had been in touch with him. And then minimized it. No chats, no messages, etc. But the day after, said there had been chats, messages, etc.

I feel like my window of cheating was limited. But that hers has been 25+ years. I disclosed and admitted. Hers, I had to discover several times. And I wasn't even looking! It just happened.

I have been miserable for a year, and can't shake it.

Thank you for listening.

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