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Madhatters Only - Part 2

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 SI Staff (original poster moderator #10) posted at 11:58 PM on Monday, October 19th, 2020

This thread is restricted to MadHatter's

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BraveSirRobin ( member #69242) posted at 2:22 AM on Tuesday, October 20th, 2020

Thank you!!

WW/BW 51 (Me)
BH/WH 51 (TimeSpiral)

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leavingorbit ( member #69680) posted at 9:40 PM on Wednesday, October 21st, 2020

Thank you!! I’ve been ducking in and checking to see if we had hit a new thread yet.

How’s everyone doing? We’ve been weathering the start of the new school year, tackling more communication barriers. Everyday feels like an opportunity, even if it’s a testing time (lots of those).

I feel a lot stronger than I did a year ago. H says he does, too. One day at a time. ✌️

When we drop fear, we can draw nearer to people, we can draw nearer to the earth, we can draw nearer to all the heavenly creatures that surround us. - bell hooks

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WalkinOnEggshelz ( Moderator #29447) posted at 2:53 PM on Thursday, October 22nd, 2020

Bump

Me: WS late 40’s
Him: BH (HoldingTogether)
D Day: 7/24/2010
If you keep asking people to give you the benefit of the doubt, they will eventually start to doubt your benefit.

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Mickie500 ( member #74292) posted at 2:43 AM on Friday, October 23rd, 2020

I have decided nobody likes a MH. 😔

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leavingorbit ( member #69680) posted at 4:47 PM on Friday, October 23rd, 2020

Hi, Mickie. How have you been doing? I remember feeling like that sometimes during the first year. It’s a big tangle to navigate.

When we drop fear, we can draw nearer to people, we can draw nearer to the earth, we can draw nearer to all the heavenly creatures that surround us. - bell hooks

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Mickie500 ( member #74292) posted at 5:31 PM on Friday, October 23rd, 2020

I’m a mess really. I keep feeling like I need to feel something different - I keep need to answer to the pain that is in the pit of my stomach. It’s like there is a beast inside me and it growls at me every time the mind movies start or I am triggered by something and it demands retribution. The eye for an eye kind of retribution.

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WalkinOnEggshelz ( Moderator #29447) posted at 10:14 PM on Saturday, February 6th, 2021

Bump

Me: WS late 40’s
Him: BH (HoldingTogether)
D Day: 7/24/2010
If you keep asking people to give you the benefit of the doubt, they will eventually start to doubt your benefit.

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TonsOfSteel ( new member #74573) posted at 5:35 PM on Tuesday, February 9th, 2021

Hello.

Finally, I figured out how to post to this thread.

I am really struggling. My BW and I are mad hatters. She f***ed her ex before we got engaged, and then initiates contact with him because she "feels bad" about how it went.

I had never cheated before this relationship, but acted out, had patterns of a SLAA, and even had an EA. I haven't slept with anyone but my wife since we met.

She has.

The latest infidelity came when she reached out to her ex on social media, and I joined the app she was on, and then I got the "Oh, by the way..." speech. She had been in touch with him. And then minimized it. No chats, no messages, etc. But the day after, said there had been chats, messages, etc.

I feel like my window of cheating was limited. But that hers has been 25+ years. I disclosed and admitted. Hers, I had to discover several times. And I wasn't even looking! It just happened.

I have been miserable for a year, and can't shake it.

Thank you for listening.

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