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HAPPY Thankful Thursday everyone !!!

First off...I am so THANKFUL that this thread is still going...THANK YOU This0is0Fine for having it brought back !!

I apologize for not coming on here as regularly as I said I would. When infidelity no longer takes up space in your head...you have so many other things to think about and do . But I want to come back and "pay it forward"...to let the newbies on here KNOW that there is HOPE and that you most definitely CAN and WILL survive infidelity . I can't say that all marriages will survive...but I can say that YOU WILL...just take it one day at a time (((HUGS))). You will soon find that not only will you survive infidelity...you can actually THRIVE despite it ! I guess this is another thing I am thankful for...that I don't feel the NEED to come on here like I used to. Then again...maybe some of y'all were thankful that I WASN'T on here !!!

My husband continues to make EVERY day a wonderful day for me as well...and I am very THANKFUL that I made the decision to give him another chance It's the "little" things he has decided to do on his own. Walking on the "outside" when we are going out...holding doors open for me...even opening the car door for me. These little things that never bothered me before when he DIDN'T do them now mean so much to me because he makes it a point to show me he puts me FIRST. For someone who has always been the "Taker" in our relationship...he has really become an amazing "GIVER" !!

My husband was very selfish...all cheaters are. One of my ultimatums on Dday was that he had to show me he was going to be UNselfish. I gave him some tasks he HAD to do before I would even think about staying...and he took those tasks to heart!! He not only did them...he surpassed them ! Once he started reading his Bible...mainly to try and figure out how he could "fix" that adultery issue he had ...he started realizing he had a lot more issues than just that. He saw that selfishness was the root of most of his issues...and he has done a complete 180 on that part...which has enhanced our M like nothing else could have . We both live the Scripture passage of Philippians 2:3 now...and what a difference it has made in our M ! As some of these wonderful people say on here...you have to BOTH be ALL IN in order for R to work...and I will add that when my H and I treat each other with selflessness...it makes for a very HAPPY M !! I am truly living my Happily Ever After...and I am so very THANKFUL for that !!!

Here I was, logging in today with the idea I would have to bump my favorite thread — and instead, W2BHA, the kindest soul on SI, the one who started this thread has already jumped in with a happy update.

Glad to see you doing well W2BHA!

When infidelity no longer takes up space in your head...you have so many other things to think about and do

Amen to that!

I mainly jumped back in this thread to be thankful for SI and all the helpful people here again before I log out for a while.

My annual hiatus usually starts in the holiday season where I get to focus on my family and friends, and focus on the rewards of all the hard work I have done to get here (and appreciate all the hard work my wife has done to get here too).

Thankful and grateful season is upon us, and I am ready to celebrate. Both of my adult sons will be able to visit for Turkey Day next week and that’s a pretty good way to kick things off.

I hope everyone heals up best they can, and everyone has a safe holiday season!

W2BH what a lovely post! These little gestures you mention are the things I've noticed my husband doing that I guess he didn't do before and I didn't really notice and what a difference they make!
We went Christmas shopping last week and there were quite a few people who'd had a few too many drinks at their bottomless brunches and my husband constantly put himself between me and them, making sure no one bumped into me whilst carrying all my shopping and not once complaining whilst I looked in 'just one more shop'!
Then this morning I woke up to find it had snowed and my husband told me he had drove out before bed to fill my car up and check the tyres for me. It's these 'little things' that really make all the difference and make me feel loved and thankful for giving my husband another chance.

Oldwounds...I hope you have a lovely thanksgiving...us UK people have a while to wait to have our turkey!

Thanks Evio - happy for your update as well.

And you may have to wait for turkey, but I am jealous you have already seen snow!

I do like changes of season and still need some snow around these parts.