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Loving singledom

EllieKMAS posted 4/10/2020 17:27 PM

Holy shit am I so goddam happy that my D got finalized right before the world went tits-up... Aside from the fact that my xdoouchehole went through a roll a day of TP on his own, he was also completely incapable of existing with himself. I can't even imagine how sick of his shit I would be if I had been stuck in a house with him for the last month. So grateful that things worked out with the timing.

And speaking of houses - I bought my house in 2015. For 'us'. We had a laundry list of things we wanted to do to it, number 1 of which was replacing the revolting carpet. We used to get into arguments about what we wanted to do to the house, mostly because he had no taste at all. Also he had a very overblown sense of his abilities to do 'house stuff'. Welp - my bonus from work this year was enough for me to replace my carpets finally! I cannot tell you how happy doing that makes my home feel. Plus i am taking all this time I have to purge things. I am going one closet/room at a time and shedding all the crap I had accumulated during my M.

My next project I am super excited for - starting on my homemade 'me' ornaments and decorations for my awesome Christmas tree. I decided that in December - I am tossing all the christmas stuff I had with him and making my own stuff that is tres moi. Should be some fun!

Just wanted to share those thoughts for anyone still in the hell of separation or facing a divorce and feeling scared about it. Hard and heart-breaking as it is/was, life after is really not so bad. Different, but better in a lot more ways than I anticipated.

Hope everyone is surviving the apocalypse OK!!

WhoTheBleep posted 4/10/2020 22:00 PM

Great post, Ellie!! I did the Christmas ornament thing last year. I also switched out the tree skirt. Cathartic!! And I got lots of compliments on my new tree decor.

The timing of this seems perfect for you, as you are able to purge all of that old marriage stuff. Have fun!!

nothisfriend posted 4/12/2020 16:15 PM

So happy to hear your peace and clarity!

deena04 posted 4/12/2020 21:51 PM

Good for you! Sometimes you just have to take life and make it yours.

thatbpguy posted 4/13/2020 10:51 AM

Keep at it. Make new friends. Have a few parties...

CaliforniaNative posted 4/13/2020 13:22 PM

Yes your marriage didnít workout, but after a break from men... you will never guess who youíre going to meet....

The strong
Independent
Sassy
Best

Version of yourself!!!!⭐️⭐️⭐️

Congratulations!

phmh posted 4/13/2020 19:59 PM

It's been 8 years for me, and I am still so happy every day that I divorced and got a restart in what life should be. So happy to read that you are loving life as well!!!

risingtide posted 4/17/2020 10:43 AM

I'm very happy for you! I did the same thing with Christmas. XWH was finally completely gone with all of his stuff in 11/18. I didn't even set up the old tree. I got a new metallic tree for the bedroom and got vintage ornaments. In 2019 I added more vintage ornaments. My sweet bedroom tree is now my new "me" tradition, and it's great.

skeetermooch posted 4/18/2020 21:47 PM

Ellie,
I really needed your happy story today! I'm still doing the back and forth and miserable. The abyss scares me so much. But seeing the joy and freedom leap from the screen in these posts gives me courage.

Thanks!!

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