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DevastatedDee ( member #59873) posted at 10:01 PM on Friday, September 13th, 2019

I really liked my wedding ring so that pisses me off. It isn't traditional, it's platinum with black diamonds and I dig the design. However...it's useless now. It won't sell for much because black diamonds aren't valuable. I haven't decided what to do with it yet either. I may sell it on Ebay or something for whatever I can get for it and hope that someone else will also think it's cool and enjoy it. I'd give it away for that. I don't have hate for the ring itself. It's too much my style to hate it. His ring, though? I'd toss that shit in a second if I had it.

DDay: 06/07/2017
MH - RA on DDay.
Divorced a serial cheater (prostitutes and lord only knows who and what else).

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 Incarnate (original poster member #46085) posted at 10:16 PM on Friday, September 13th, 2019

Reading all of your stories on what you did with your rings was both sad and awesome.

Fuck those things. We upheld our end of the deal. We honored our vows and we wore the symbols of our fidelity on our hands.

They were the ones that tarnished the symbol of their vows, they were the ones that destroyed any meaning and sentiment they may have had.

Sell 'em. Destroy 'em. Launch them from a slingshot or an air cannon. Melt them down and turn them into something that once more has worth.

I appreciate all of you. Thank you for sharing your stories.

Me: BH
She: EW
Divorce in progress
DD1: 11/29/14
DD2: 8/14/19

What a wicked game we play.

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squid ( member #57624) posted at 11:19 PM on Friday, September 13th, 2019

I stupidly still have ours. They're not worth anything. They were our promise rings from before we were even engaged. Just cheesy mementos of our puppy love. Simple sterling silver rings with engravings. I would have gladly gotten nice rings for our wedding bands but she said she was fine with those. Lesson learned: They're never okay with anything.

I have no idea why I still have them.

Conversely, she kept the nice ring I bought her a few years ago as a way to try and prove how much I loved her. I'm sure she sold it. No idea why she'd ever keep it. She swore she'd never love me again years ago.

BH
D-Day 2.19.17
Divorced 12.10.18

This isn’t what any of us signed up for. But it is the hand that we have been dealt. Thus, we must play it.

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Shehawk ( member #68741) posted at 7:14 AM on Wednesday, September 18th, 2019

He left them when he left. Even my grandfather's wedding band I gave him when I was young and oh so stupid. I honestly thought he was my forever. It breaks my heart every single time I look at it.

"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!

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risingtide ( member #54148) posted at 3:46 AM on Thursday, September 19th, 2019

On my July, 2019 payday I wrote a check to my dad that finished paying off the loan he had made me the year before. The loan was for the final $xx,xxx I needed to buy out XWH and send him on his way. It was a milestone that represented putting XWH completely in the past (aside from that pesky shared Ancestry account that I still have to figure out how to move my DNA results and tree to an account of my own).

As a variation on a theme, I decided it was time to be rid of the rings, and I sold them that weekend to whichever local gold/silver buyer place made me the best offer. Did I mention that platinum prices are no longer what they once were? But done is done, and I’m halfway to that reproduction Frank Lloyd Wright Taliesin 2 floor lamp that I really want.

Me - BS, 57 Him - XWH, 70. Married 15 years, no kids. My first marriage, his second. DD#1 July 2016, DD#2 June 2018, D final 09/18/18.

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imwideawake ( member #23386) posted at 9:00 PM on Thursday, September 19th, 2019

During his 2 year affair he bought me an anniversary band, diamonds all around. Once Dday hit, I learned it was probably a guilt gift. He caught hell from the AP for not buying her a birthday gift in November and our anniversary was one week before Christmas. With the pressure to buy her a christmas gift looming, he bought me a ring. When he moved out he left all his jewelry. A hideous lion head ring that I sold for the gold and gave the $ to my daughter's personal trainer, who at the time was like a father to her. I took my wedding band and his and the anniversary ring and had a goldsmith make me a beautiful piece out of them. It is three separate rings with one diamond in each and wrapped with a piece of silver to make one ring. It is this unique style that looks like twigs. I wear it now and someday I will cut the silver and separate the rings and give each one to one of my daughters. They were the best things that came out of that marriage and I want them to each have one.

Together 21 years.
Married 19
Me: BW
Him XWH
dday 9/08
3 daughters, now grown
Divorced 12/04/12

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Cheatee ( member #59284) posted at 3:07 PM on Tuesday, September 24th, 2019

I left mine on her sink, as a message that I was done. I don't really care what she did with it.

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firenze ( member #66522) posted at 5:24 AM on Wednesday, September 25th, 2019

I also had a simple $30 tungsten wedding band which I threw into a canal on DDay. I tried (unsuccessfully) to find my exWW's wedding and engagement rings so I could smash them with a hammer. Still don't know what she did with them and don't much care at this point.

Me: BH, 27 on DDay
Her: WW, 29 on DDay
DDay: Nov 2015
Divorced.

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torn2bits ( member #28376) posted at 6:46 PM on Friday, September 27th, 2019

Funny you mention guilt gift.. I got many of those. His ring was stolen when our house got robbed. He wasn't wearing it. I, ofcourse have mine and the anniversary ring, diamond earrings, etc.

I am going to have the diamonds removed and put into something else for my daughter/grandchildren. They are of good quality.

The band itself....I can't even look at it. Just a simple, cheap gold band from 30 yrs ago.

Me: 45/WH (SA): 49
M: 26 years 3 kids over 10 yrs old
EA/ PA Dec. 2009 -Divorce halted

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LittleRussian ( member #36658) posted at 1:19 PM on Tuesday, October 1st, 2019

I gave mine to our son on his 21st birthday. It's just a plain gold band so he wears it on a chain round his neck. It's a good reminder for him that although his parents' marriage went sour there was a time when they were very happy and that he and his sisters were very much wanted children.

Me - firmly middle aged
Him XH - slightly younger (but not much!)
3 young adult children

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