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Wedding Rings

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DevastatedDee posted 9/13/2019 16:01 PM

I really liked my wedding ring so that pisses me off. It isn't traditional, it's platinum with black diamonds and I dig the design. However...it's useless now. It won't sell for much because black diamonds aren't valuable. I haven't decided what to do with it yet either. I may sell it on Ebay or something for whatever I can get for it and hope that someone else will also think it's cool and enjoy it. I'd give it away for that. I don't have hate for the ring itself. It's too much my style to hate it. His ring, though? I'd toss that shit in a second if I had it.

Incarnate posted 9/13/2019 16:16 PM

Reading all of your stories on what you did with your rings was both sad and awesome.

Fuck those things. We upheld our end of the deal. We honored our vows and we wore the symbols of our fidelity on our hands.

They were the ones that tarnished the symbol of their vows, they were the ones that destroyed any meaning and sentiment they may have had.

Sell 'em. Destroy 'em. Launch them from a slingshot or an air cannon. Melt them down and turn them into something that once more has worth.

I appreciate all of you. Thank you for sharing your stories.

squid posted 9/13/2019 17:19 PM

I stupidly still have ours. They're not worth anything. They were our promise rings from before we were even engaged. Just cheesy mementos of our puppy love. Simple sterling silver rings with engravings. I would have gladly gotten nice rings for our wedding bands but she said she was fine with those. Lesson learned: They're never okay with anything.

I have no idea why I still have them.

Conversely, she kept the nice ring I bought her a few years ago as a way to try and prove how much I loved her. I'm sure she sold it. No idea why she'd ever keep it. She swore she'd never love me again years ago.

Shehawk posted 9/18/2019 01:14 AM

He left them when he left. Even my grandfather's wedding band I gave him when I was young and oh so stupid. I honestly thought he was my forever. It breaks my heart every single time I look at it.


risingtide posted 9/18/2019 21:46 PM

On my July, 2019 payday I wrote a check to my dad that finished paying off the loan he had made me the year before. The loan was for the final $xx,xxx I needed to buy out XWH and send him on his way. It was a milestone that represented putting XWH completely in the past (aside from that pesky shared Ancestry account that I still have to figure out how to move my DNA results and tree to an account of my own).

As a variation on a theme, I decided it was time to be rid of the rings, and I sold them that weekend to whichever local gold/silver buyer place made me the best offer. Did I mention that platinum prices are no longer what they once were? But done is done, and Iím halfway to that reproduction Frank Lloyd Wright Taliesin 2 floor lamp that I really want.

imwideawake posted 9/19/2019 15:00 PM

During his 2 year affair he bought me an anniversary band, diamonds all around. Once Dday hit, I learned it was probably a guilt gift. He caught hell from the AP for not buying her a birthday gift in November and our anniversary was one week before Christmas. With the pressure to buy her a christmas gift looming, he bought me a ring. When he moved out he left all his jewelry. A hideous lion head ring that I sold for the gold and gave the $ to my daughter's personal trainer, who at the time was like a father to her. I took my wedding band and his and the anniversary ring and had a goldsmith make me a beautiful piece out of them. It is three separate rings with one diamond in each and wrapped with a piece of silver to make one ring. It is this unique style that looks like twigs. I wear it now and someday I will cut the silver and separate the rings and give each one to one of my daughters. They were the best things that came out of that marriage and I want them to each have one.

Cheatee posted 9/24/2019 09:07 AM

I left mine on her sink, as a message that I was done. I don't really care what she did with it.

firenze posted 9/24/2019 23:24 PM

I also had a simple $30 tungsten wedding band which I threw into a canal on DDay. I tried (unsuccessfully) to find my exWW's wedding and engagement rings so I could smash them with a hammer. Still don't know what she did with them and don't much care at this point.

torn2bits posted 9/27/2019 12:46 PM

Funny you mention guilt gift.. I got many of those. His ring was stolen when our house got robbed. He wasn't wearing it. I, ofcourse have mine and the anniversary ring, diamond earrings, etc.

I am going to have the diamonds removed and put into something else for my daughter/grandchildren. They are of good quality.

The band itself....I can't even look at it. Just a simple, cheap gold band from 30 yrs ago.

LittleRussian posted 10/1/2019 07:19 AM

I gave mine to our son on his 21st birthday. It's just a plain gold band so he wears it on a chain round his neck. It's a good reminder for him that although his parents' marriage went sour there was a time when they were very happy and that he and his sisters were very much wanted children.

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