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Good book for the WS to read?

bluetears posted 11/15/2018 19:50 PM

I'm new here and looking for a book that my WH can read to give him an idea of what I'm going through and what NOT to say. Also, I saw a post that mentioned "The McDonald Book" but I can't find the book or the post now. Any suggestions would be great.

onlytime posted 11/15/2018 19:58 PM

The book you are looking for is called "How to Help Your Spouse Heal From Your Affair: A Compact Manual for the Unfaithful" by Linda J. MacDonald.

FEEL posted 11/16/2018 11:13 AM

Who's idea is it for reading the book?

sewardak posted 11/16/2018 11:17 AM

bluetears - resist the urge to do any of the work for him, including finding reading material.

bluetears posted 11/16/2018 12:39 PM

It's my idea. And, you're right, I've decided to let him do his own work. Thank you for the advice.

FEEL posted 11/16/2018 12:56 PM

That was the reason I asked... good move. For the actions to be useful and meaningful, they need to come from him, not you.

bluetears posted 11/19/2018 17:39 PM

Thanks FEEL!

marji posted 11/20/2018 17:26 PM

BluetearsThere is a free on line podcast that many of us found very helpful and thought our H's might learn from listening to.

It's Part I and Part II of Marnice Bleeecker. She is a therapist who works with a lot of trauma clients whose H's are SAs but what she had to say pertains to non-SA situations. I think Im not allowed to give a link but she could be Googled with Marnie Bleecker SA, trauma, or something like that. I think you might find it worthwhile.

bluetears posted 11/20/2018 21:00 PM

Thank you Marji!

marji posted 11/20/2018 22:02 PM

You're welcome. Hope you find it helpful.

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