SurvivingInfidelity.com^®

Seriously, it's not the reason. The reason is that these people cheated and then didn't have the strength to take responsibility for their actions.

Maybe the leak was the impetus but I think those people would have committed suicide regardless.

Yesterday my sister was telling me about a friend of hers who is going through a hard time. In house separation with her spouse, headed for divorce. She found out he was on Ashley Madison a few months ago. He didn't close the browser properly and when she opened it is reopened the previous tabs. Guess what popped up.

Honestly, there are so many ways a person can be caught cheating. If someone was willing to end their life over being discovered it it could have happened in a lot of ways.

WH had an idea about himself he projected to the world. What he wanted other people to see, what he showed other people. Didn't prevent him from going against everything that he pretended he stood for. Discovery was a pretty big slap to his face. And more people found out that just me in our case as well. He had to face himself.

No one should be making choices they are unable to face. It's really sad, start to finish.

We need strong deterrants for adultery. These hackers have provided for that by fowling up AM secrecy pledge.

AM and the cheaters who signed up are responsible for any suicides whether it be the cheaters or their spouse. Its very very sad.

I was suicidal after DD and it was my husband cheating on me that caused that not that he found the whore thru Craigslist. That being said I would like all sites like this shutdown. They are a menace to society, our mental and physical health, our safety and our families

I know people will find ways to cheat but no reason to make it even easier and condone use of internt for it. We have privacy laws why not adultery laws?

Found my wife. Her two profiles say that she had 13 pictures. Any idea if pictures can be retrieved? We're back in court on Monday.

the site with the IP address has been down for hours now. I was able to get on it for a little while this morning. Anywhere else this info is listed?

mustard - I don't think pics are released yet but I read supposedly the hackers have them.

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The reason why we don't have strong adultery laws is that the people who make the laws and the people who vote for the people who make the laws want to protect their acess to cheating if they want too. Even if they don't admit it, that is why. They wouldn't want to face criminal charges for adultery should they engage in it. Unfortunately many people believe that only unhappy/unsatisfied people cheat and so it isn't really their fault, but is the fault of the spouse who didn't do x y oz right or enough. That is why.

Found my wife. Her two profiles say that she had 13 pictures. Any idea if pictures can be retrieved?

Did you copy the email address she used? They usually make a random junk email used for cheating and if you do a Google search it sometimes links to other cheating sites and profiles. I found some profiles with pictures using the email found on AM.

Hi Mharris,

I was wondering how you searched mspy? I am certain my ex, out of the home under a DVO, and a serial cheater, has somehow been tracking us. He has broken into my home repeatedly, always when we are away. This so needs to stop, as it has gone on for years. Thanks for any help!

My wife used her primary email, her real birthday and real zipcode. Even her username was a nickname that only her Mom calls her. Can't wait for the pics and messages to be dumped. Did I mention that she has failed three drug tests since we went to court. Despite all of this she still has my kids and I am paying child support and temporary spousal support. Praying that the judge reverses custody at our next hearing on Monday.

Can anyone suggest a site that allows searching by anything besides email?

http://52.7.207.193 lets you search by name, email, postcode....

The site above appears to be down now. I get it completely blank page when trying to access. Are there any other options?

I am one of those, and NO it is not cheating. I joined to SEE IF FWH WAS ON THERE. I gave the minimum info, no picture, no money except to delete at the end. (which was a form of highway robbery that we now know meant nothing.) I never answered a single fucking response directed at me. And now my highly identifiable although now closed email address is on there, somehow linked to the junk email I gave to them.

I realize the outside world is going to assume I'm a cheater but it'd be nice to not be judged here. Most of us know the insanity a BS suffers after D-Day. I hope all the info is searchable for free, I'd love for the same nosy people who are searching me and everyone in their zip code to know the entire truth. Apparently it's too much to expect that people would look only for their own spouse or SO and otherwise mind their own business.

+1.

The reason why we don't have strong adultery laws is that the people who make the laws and the people who vote for the people who make the laws want to protect their acess to cheating if they want too. Even if they don't admit it, that is why. They wouldn't want to face criminal charges for adultery should they engage in it. Unfortunately many people believe that only unhappy/unsatisfied people cheat and so it isn't really their fault, but is the fault of the spouse who didn't do x y oz right or enough. That is why.

First, you are right, many misunderstand that cheating is not about unhappy spouses.

HOWEVER, you are gravely wrong about why at least more reasoned nations do not make infidelity a crime.

First it is a civil matter, how on earth could you create a basis other than those countries using laws founded on religious context in justifying the "state" get involved other than to arbitrate a civil dispute?????

As much as infidelity is painful, I am glad we maintain a more logical approach to the repercussions of infidelity vs other countries.

Does anyone have a link that works or any more information that is searchable by anything other than email address? Thanks for any assistance.

msn is reporting that 3 zip codes in the entire US doesn't have AM accounts for it.

essentially every town in the country has registered accounts on that trashy cheater site.

expect a lot more misery over the coming months... coming to a neighborhood near you

I'm all for strong punishments, but deterrents won't change much. It's not why people cheat, so it won't be why they remain faithful either.

I haven't been able to get on the search site since early yesterday.

Jendo and others I found a site that is searchable and has the correct info. I found out about it on Reddit.

http://www.allaboutashley.cr/

I just want to help so many of the spouses here. I will post more correct, non-harmful sites as I find them, if mods approve.

I am sorry to all that are hurting.

Thanks BaggageReclaimed. This provided a few additional details that I did not retrieve from ashleymadison.sucks