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I actually really like the plot thread about Miranda and Steve in the first Sex and the City movie. It portrays the whole situation pretty spot on, including the discomfort of the friends of the couple and how the friends support Miranda even if they're not really sure they agree with her decisions plus it shows them in counseling and how they resolve their issues. The first time I watched it was right after DDay #1, I was unprepared for that plot line and it ROCKED me. But, I've watched it several times since, through 2 more DDays and it still strikes me as very 'real'. Plus there is another plot line about Samantha, who was previously always on the make who finds herself wanting out of a relationship but she refuses to cheat because she knows it the wrong way to handle the situation. Her plot line makes me smile because she behaves the way an adult SHOULD in the situation she's in.

Good movie.

I can't believe nobody has mentioned the 2006 version of "The Painted Veil." Naomi Watts and Eward Norton both at the height of their powers. Stunning setting. Realistic and (for me) inspirational story line. I saw it before wife's A and loved it. It has come to take on earth shaking meaning for me now.

Thanks for all the suggestions.... I just typed all the movie titles into an e-mail to myself at home and will start downloading this evening.

I hope I don't upset anyone by mentioning this movie because it somewhat glorifies two people having an affair, but it is SUCH a wonderful move it deserves to be mentioned in the "Movies about Affairs" category: Same Time Next Year with Alan Alda and Ellen Burstyn.

Sorry, just LOVE that movie.

Two of my favorites...

The women with Meg Ryan

Something to talk about Julia Roberts

And just thought of a third ...

First wives club, love their revenge strategy.

Anybody got an opinion on which movies about infidelity are helpfulfor us BS types to see? Educational/factual without being too triggery?

And if anyone has any suggestions about flicks more applicable to us BH types, I'd welcome that.

Thanks

for BHs.. watch Butterfly on a Wheel.. you'll get it.. eventually :)

I saw unfaithful before dday. I thought it was an excellent film and diane lane's acting as the betrayer was spot on.

I think I'm more interested in the crazy of the betrayer than the betrayed. Essentially I lived the latter but I know it can come immediately or be delayed or be white hot rage or just blood running cold.

I also watched six feet under all the way through about 1 year after dday. Boy did that show get into the cracks the way many things just couldn't. It really helped me in a bizarre way.. and is still one of my favorite shows.

also a shout out for sex in the city... first film.

I really agree with Sex in the City I...the best part is that they got back together and both owned up to their part in the melt down. Little did I know that my husband would cheat after seeing this. I also like Crazy, Stupid, Love.

Even though infidelity isn't the main subject, I like Jennifer Lopez's movie 'Enough'. Her abusive husband tells her to just mainly ignore his cheating and he's going to do what he wants to do.

In the end, no he isn't.

you mean "love actually"?

Ugh, yes. I totally identified with Emma's character. Taking care of the house, the kids, their life, while OW had nothing to do but prettify herself for WH. We love that movie but WH always knows to say, "what an asshole, what a bastard!" during those scenes.

I can't believe no one has mentioned Heartburn with Meryl Streep and Jack Nicholson. It is literally about the destruction of a marriage by infidelity, but it has humor and for me a happy ending because she ultimately leaves him after false reconciliation.

I watched it over and over again after DDay, when I was seeking strength to leave. Although triggery, the ultimate message is that the BS will be okay. It was written by the great (late) Nora Ephron, based on her book by the same name.

I recommend it for a cathartic cry--the WS is portrayed as a shit, the discovery scene is spot on, and the cast and writing are top notch. It is my go-to movie when I need to remind myself that I will be ok, no matter what ultimately happens with my marriage

(I just found out that my WS has broken mental NC after three years by searching for his COW AP online. I am planning to watch it again tonight)

Oh, and it is on Netflix streaming...

Do you ever find a movie and want to watch it with your WS hoping they will 'see' it and it will help them understand where we are coming from?

Fatal Attraction is my favorite, second is Unfaithful. Both great portails of the destruction that affairs can cause.

Very old movie called "An Unmarried Woman." BW is told by her husband he's met someone else. She goes numb, walks away and vomits on the street. She ultimately becomes stronger and he comes begging later as OW was not what he really wanted.

Been years since I've seen it, it's from the early 19702, I think, with Jill Clayburgh.

Also Love Actually. Emma Thompson was spot on.

I always likee Same Time, Next Year before the affair. Now it makes me sick. Glorifies the affair. Ugh.

Two of my favorites...

The women with Meg Ryan

Something to talk about Julia Roberts

I was going to mention these.

I just over my birthday watched Sex and the City 1 and Love, Actually again... and I agree with both of those.

It's Complicated with Alec Baldwin and Meryl Streep is interesting, although, not all that educational or informative.

I'll come back if I can think of any other ones.

Just finished watching "We dont live here any more" and I felt it was horrible.

The reactions are so muted, the A's nor their devastation never tackled honestly. Even the A's themselves seemed pretty "faked".

Everyone is so apathetic about the A's overall. A MEH rating.

Another movie I watched was The Descendants and I felt GC did a good job in his initial reaction and some interaction with OM. Though, hollywood style, it was all toned down a few notches. Well, there was a lot more going on, so I can excuse that.

As for old school, there was little to nothing about the A in it other than the opening scene(s). Yes, its about 180 but not a particularly healthy one. (There's a few A like behaviours which are glossed over)

FWW saw "Take this Waltz" (I haven't seen it yet). I think it had a profound effect on her (she talked about the movie for days).

Diary of a Mad Black Woman

Why Did I Get Married

The Family That Preys Together

Yeah I like payback.

Do you ever find a movie and want to watch it with your WS hoping they will 'see' it and it will help them understand where we are coming from?

Yes. I had H to watch some of "Middle Men" with me. It managed to combine porn and infidelity in one film.

Sliding Doors is a good one to check out. it's a little confusing to try and describe, and may be a little triggery, but over all a good flick. also, story of us. the infidelity angle isn't extremely prominent, but it is there.