...I'm too tired to make one up.
Wise community members of SI? Does anyone know of any? Or made one yourselves?
Maybe I should try a haiku:
No sleep, nor awake
Minutes mumble ceaselessly
Hours not slept nor lived
Not my best work, but to be fair, it is something like 3:12 in the morning.
5 comments posted: Tuesday, March 30th, 2021
Promising Young Woman
Has anyone else seen it? How are you feeling after seeing it? Are there certain parts or things about it your mind keeps on going back to?
0 comment posted: Saturday, March 27th, 2021
Question for the dudes
When you’re meeting someone for the first time, whether randomly in public or online on OLD, what are some questions you like to be asked about yourself? What’s the most interesting question a person can ask you? And how can a lady make it non-awkward for you both?
Sorry, one more question: do you think a lady is still worth talking to if she’s shy but still making an effort to engage?
4 comments posted: Wednesday, February 17th, 2021
Creepy folks souring my desire to date
Hope you’re all safe. It’s been more than a year since I left my ex. I’m getting a civil RO on top of the current criminal one so it will help make custody easier to sort, so I can properly get a divorce. Having trouble figuring out how to do that - I’m low income, and I don’t know what resources are around, especially now during Covid. He’s harassed me and keeps blaming me for his abuse.
Covid is lonely. This we know. I wasn’t planning on dating and haven’t done so at all. I had a couple of crushes that had me feeling like I would be up for it (one played and still plays head games, so I’m still getting over my interest in him; the other gently and cleanly rejected me, and fortunately we are still friends). Well, I’m not so interested in dating anymore.
Three guys have hit on me in the past week. One was a total stranger and trying to put his hands on me. The other two were elderly guys I see around the neighborhood - one I even thought was my friend (one of my son’s former preschool teachers - my son and his grandson are only a couple years apart!). The first guy stood over me and tried to crowd my personal space - even more uncomfortable with Covid rates rising! The other one, who I thought was my friend, said “walk in the new year?” and stupid me thought he meant was I going to walk more often in the new year. Instead he was trying to get me to agree to a date I didn’t know I was agreeing to. And that was after I’d told him about the other two guys who made me uncomfortable.
Well, I definitely don’t want to date now. In fact, I’m kind of back to being repulsed by people. At least it will make dealing with the remaining months of the pandemic easier!
Thank you for letting me vent.
[This message edited by silverhopes at 9:55 PM, December 24th (Thursday)]
65 comments posted: Thursday, December 24th, 2020
So... hi. It's been a while. Sorry for not being here for so long.
I left my ex in October. Haven't gone back - though it helps that he's been in jail since November. I haven't had contact with him for the last two months, no matter how much a certain family member tries to guilt me into it. The last conversation, I confirmed that he will definitely have his divorce.
Since I haven't filed yet, even though I've made clear that it's over, I wanted to know: what are good guidelines for interacting with people of the opposite gender? Mind you, in my M, ex pretty much said that so much as being polite to another man was leading him on, and accused me of infidelity even when I avoided other men like the plague.
I'm sure the advice will be not to sleep with people until I'm fully divorced. Are there exceptions to this? I miss physical touch. Would getting a massage be inappropriate?
I am not planning on dating for a very long time, if ever again. What I have been noticing, though, are feelings of attractions to other people. I emphasize, I do NOT act on these feelings. I notice them, feel guilty about having them, and then wind up learning from them. Specifically, I'm learning about my own wiring and what traits are healthy to be attracted to and what traits aren't. I'm learning what respect looks like.
When you're in a community and someone often pretends you don't speak, but then shares your ideas and gets credit for them, even in a community that encourages people to "steal like an artist"... that tells me that such a person is trying to make me invisible, otherwise they would credit me. The correct response isn't to try to prove myself to them or anyone else in that community - it's to stay the hell away from them so they won't suck out more of my soul.
Why do I feel the need to prove myself? I'm guessing feelings of inferiority. So I need to address those and learn to feel good about myself without external validation. I'm slowly getting there. I'm learning to be more comfortable with silences.
I just really, really, really miss physical touch.
10 comments posted: Wednesday, April 1st, 2020
Outliers: The Story of Success
Has anyone read Outliers: The Story of Success by Malcolm Gladwell? I started it yesterday and am already halfway through. Quite a good read!
If you've read it, what was the most thought-provoking part of the book for you?
[This message edited by silverhopes at 10:29 AM, August 23rd (Thursday)]
1 comment posted: Thursday, August 23rd, 2018
5 Languages of Apology
Has anyone here read "The Five Languages of Apology" by Gary Chapman (author of "The 5 Love Languages") and Jennifer Thomas?
Was it helpful for you?
1 comment posted: Friday, July 13th, 2018
Any artists here?
If so, I would love to see your art! Be it drawing, painting, cooking, singing, dancing, weaving, poetry, etc, I would love to see what you love to create.
46 comments posted: Wednesday, April 4th, 2018
Avengers Infinity War predictions
Not sure if this is the right place for this or not... Delete if not, please.
Did anyone else hear that Infinity War is coming out early? Apparently it's being released on April 27th instead of May 4th!
Sooo... Predictions, anyone? Who is going to die in Infinity War?
12 comments posted: Monday, March 19th, 2018
Happy 12/13/14, Everyone!
…And Happy Birthday Lil Silver!
That is all!
14 comments posted: Saturday, December 13th, 2014