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Boundaries and Consequences 101 for all new BS

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bufffalo ( Member #21854) posted at 5:44 PM on Saturday, May 7th, 2011

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DDay 9/25/2008

BH-me

posts: 6172   ·   registered: Dec. 1st, 2008   ·   location: Texas
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 lordhasaplan? (original poster Member #30079) posted at 9:21 PM on Thursday, May 12th, 2011

((((lilacs40))))

BS- Me (45)
D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10).
Currently in R.
Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.

posts: 2104   ·   registered: Nov. 10th, 2010
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Fighting2Survive ( Member #28410) posted at 2:40 AM on Sunday, May 15th, 2011

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Me: BW, 40.......Him: FWH, 40
D-day: 3-22-10
DS1: 11, DS2: crawling
Status: R going well

"When you can tell the story and it doesn't bring up any pain, you know it is healed." - Iyanla Vanzant, Broken Pieces

posts: 7279   ·   registered: Apr. 30th, 2010   ·   location: NC
id 5237454
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 lordhasaplan? (original poster Member #30079) posted at 9:10 PM on Thursday, May 19th, 2011

whyme52

BS- Me (45)
D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10).
Currently in R.
Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.

posts: 2104   ·   registered: Nov. 10th, 2010
id 5245397
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annb ( Member #22386) posted at 2:00 AM on Sunday, May 22nd, 2011

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posts: 11257   ·   registered: Jan. 10th, 2009   ·   location: Northeast
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nooneeverthought ( Member #20157) posted at 11:05 PM on Wednesday, May 25th, 2011

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it doesn't matter where you go in life ,it's who you have the beside you

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Rise_Above ( Member #23674) posted at 6:53 AM on Monday, June 6th, 2011

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You can live the way you believe this is your opportunity to let your life be one that lights the way~F.Battistelli

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God's hand was an avocado branch

posts: 14226   ·   registered: Apr. 18th, 2009   ·   location: Chrys a lis
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sherran ( New Member #32233) posted at 7:28 AM on Monday, June 6th, 2011

thank you for your post. It makes things clearer for me, I need the boundaries to keep me strong.

Karma will kick him in the arse

BS 34
WH 35
together: 13 yrs
M 2 1/2 yrs
DDay 19/5/11
A & OW - not sure how long?? no answers given

posts: 33   ·   registered: May. 22nd, 2011   ·   location: Australia
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 lordhasaplan? (original poster Member #30079) posted at 2:14 PM on Monday, June 27th, 2011

BS- Me (45)
D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10).
Currently in R.
Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.

posts: 2104   ·   registered: Nov. 10th, 2010
id 5308316
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belladolcegirl ( Member #32489) posted at 10:17 PM on Monday, June 27th, 2011

Thank you for this post. I can see a lot of myself in what you wrote and I will defintely be considering these points as I make my mind up to confront. Thank you for taking the time to share this!

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hathnofury ( Member #32550) posted at 10:48 PM on Monday, June 27th, 2011

Thank you for this. Very helpful. I need to put mine in writing, so it is clear.

BS 43, SAWH 38. M 15years, together 17. Body count in the triple digits. Both in recovery, trying to R.
Three kids under age 11.

posts: 1503   ·   registered: Jun. 21st, 2011
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Rise_Above ( Member #23674) posted at 10:06 PM on Thursday, June 30th, 2011

You can live the way you believe this is your opportunity to let your life be one that lights the way~F.Battistelli

*****
God's hand was an avocado branch

posts: 14226   ·   registered: Apr. 18th, 2009   ·   location: Chrys a lis
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isadora ( Member #29130) posted at 6:05 PM on Saturday, July 2nd, 2011

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Me: BW Him: who cares
Divorced: 4/2015
2 DDs and 2DSs
Who knows how many affairs at this point
Multiple D-Days

I can only control myself, no one else. I do not have that kind of power.

posts: 4736   ·   registered: Jul. 24th, 2010   ·   location: Back home again in Indiana
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jb3199 ( Member #27673) posted at 7:11 PM on Sunday, July 10th, 2011

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BH-50s
WW-50s
2 boys
Married 28yrs.(together over 30yrs.)

All work and no play has just cost me my wife--Gary Puckett
D-Day(s): Enough
Accepting that I can/may end this marriage 7/2/14

posts: 3818   ·   registered: Feb. 21st, 2010   ·   location: northeast
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bufffalo ( Member #21854) posted at 2:18 AM on Tuesday, July 12th, 2011

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DDay 9/25/2008

BH-me

posts: 6172   ·   registered: Dec. 1st, 2008   ·   location: Texas
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Fighting2Survive ( Member #28410) posted at 4:30 AM on Tuesday, July 19th, 2011

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Me: BW, 40.......Him: FWH, 40
D-day: 3-22-10
DS1: 11, DS2: crawling
Status: R going well

"When you can tell the story and it doesn't bring up any pain, you know it is healed." - Iyanla Vanzant, Broken Pieces

posts: 7279   ·   registered: Apr. 30th, 2010   ·   location: NC
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Fighting2Survive ( Member #28410) posted at 2:22 AM on Sunday, July 24th, 2011

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Me: BW, 40.......Him: FWH, 40
D-day: 3-22-10
DS1: 11, DS2: crawling
Status: R going well

"When you can tell the story and it doesn't bring up any pain, you know it is healed." - Iyanla Vanzant, Broken Pieces

posts: 7279   ·   registered: Apr. 30th, 2010   ·   location: NC
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bufffalo ( Member #21854) posted at 11:15 PM on Wednesday, July 27th, 2011

DDay 9/25/2008

BH-me

posts: 6172   ·   registered: Dec. 1st, 2008   ·   location: Texas
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MrsSprky99 ( Member #32895) posted at 3:24 AM on Thursday, July 28th, 2011

lordhasaplan?

Thank you so very much for taking the time to post this information!!! Helps a newbie like me to get a hold of a seemingly out of control situation :)

BW (me) - 47
WH (him) - 53
Married - 14 years
3 Children - 25, 24 from first relationship & 10 y/o with WH
D-Day: June 11, 2011

posts: 78   ·   registered: Jul. 26th, 2011   ·   location: Northern IL
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 lordhasaplan? (original poster Member #30079) posted at 1:48 PM on Friday, August 5th, 2011

BS- Me (45)
D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10).
Currently in R.
Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.

posts: 2104   ·   registered: Nov. 10th, 2010
id 5372468
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