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Just Found Out :
Tactical Primer


 SerJR (original poster member #14993) posted at 12:08 AM on Sunday, June 7th, 2009

Me: BH - Happily remarried.
Hope is never lost. It exists within you - it is real. It is not a force in and of itself - it is something that you create with every thought, action, and choice you make. It is a gift that you create for yourself.

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ThoughtIKnewYa ( member #18449) posted at 9:13 PM on Tuesday, June 9th, 2009

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UKgirl ( member #17062) posted at 11:02 AM on Sunday, June 21st, 2009


Affair1: Dday 30/07/06 LTA: 5yrs ex-fiancee Affair2: Dday 04/09/20 9mths another XHSgf.Me/BS, still young. Him/WS, old. 4 grown boysHaving an affair because you are unhappy is like eating Ex-lax because you are hungry - unfound's mom

posts: 4044   ·   registered: Nov. 17th, 2007   ·   location: UK
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lostsuol ( member #13706) posted at 11:15 PM on Sunday, June 21st, 2009


Still a struggle...

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jmac525 ( member #24204) posted at 2:09 AM on Monday, June 22nd, 2009

I copied it as a word document so that I can read it when I need to get my head on straight. Very good advice and easy to understand, Thank you!

BS 37
WS 37
Married 18 years
Two children 12 & 18
D Day May 1,09
WS moved out May 5,09
I am hoping for R, but WW refuses and says it is not possible, she's "IN LOVE" I refuse to give up hope!
6-24-09,I really no longer want her back

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marvalon ( member #23324) posted at 3:38 AM on Monday, June 22nd, 2009

That's a great post. I am ready for all this. I have started some of this and will soon see a lawyer. I am going to stop his engagement in my financial affairs, which will make him blow his stack. He likes using all the write offs from my business, but I will be filing separate tax returns as long as this is going on. I don't trust his financial judgment anyway. He also wants money from me monthly. That's stopping. He has bought OW flowers on different occasions, and probably things I am not aware of. I am keeping your checklist handy as a reminder.

The most important person in your life is you. The person who you love the most in the world should be you! Why not? Who better than you?
Ayn Rand

posts: 56   ·   registered: Mar. 20th, 2009
id 3929966

woundedby2 ( member #18522) posted at 10:55 PM on Thursday, June 25th, 2009

bumping for the new ones.

In 2010 I divorced the NPD assclown who cheated on me with my best friend.

Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson

posts: 8027   ·   registered: Mar. 7th, 2008   ·   location: SoCal
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SuspiciousWife ( member #18108) posted at 4:12 PM on Thursday, July 2nd, 2009

another bump

Me - BW, 44
Him - FWH, 44
OW - former co-worker
3 great kids
DDay - April 25, 2008 - mostly EA with one make-out session

posts: 557   ·   registered: Feb. 8th, 2008   ·   location: East Coast
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Dust Bunny ( member #2066) posted at 3:30 AM on Wednesday, July 8th, 2009


FBW married 30 years to RFWH
(ps... F=former :P)

"Whoever fights monsters should see to it that in the progress he(or she) does not become a monster."
Friedrich Nietzsche

posts: 3248   ·   registered: Aug. 26th, 2003   ·   location: Louisiana
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still confounded ( member #7826) posted at 12:34 AM on Sunday, July 12th, 2009


"Sometimes, the rest of your life starts with goodbye."
D-day April 2005
(Married 33 years, together 35)
Divorced Dec. '05
Life is good, but it took a long time to heal.

posts: 1329   ·   registered: Aug. 8th, 2005   ·   location: up the river, NY
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tractorgirl ( member #21226) posted at 4:45 AM on Tuesday, July 14th, 2009

bumping yet again. there are so many new people on here all the time!!

BS=me, late 30's
FWH=him, early 40's
Married 15 years
OW=19 yrs old
2 boys: 12 & 9, wonderful!!

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inconnu ( member #24518) posted at 10:51 PM on Thursday, July 30th, 2009


There is no joy without gratitude. - Brené Brown

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nooneeverthought ( member #20157) posted at 3:26 PM on Tuesday, August 4th, 2009

bump to page one

it doesn't matter where you go in life ,it's who you have the beside you

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jewel123 ( member #22863) posted at 3:15 PM on Tuesday, August 11th, 2009


BS me 44
H 46 (paulie)
married 25 years (hs sweethearts)
dday 8-08
New love is the brightest, and long love is the greatest, but revived love is the tenderest thing known on earth. -Thomas Hardy
Reconciled! :)

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JustKeepSwimmig ( member #19269) posted at 4:00 AM on Monday, August 24th, 2009


DDay - April 2008

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mscuteone ( member #25223) posted at 9:35 PM on Monday, August 24th, 2009

great advice

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JustKeepSwimmig ( member #19269) posted at 1:00 PM on Wednesday, August 26th, 2009


DDay - April 2008

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jolene ( member #17993) posted at 10:13 AM on Thursday, August 27th, 2009


Divorced 10/2013! Don't let the door hit ya where the good Lord split ya!

posts: 2189   ·   registered: Jan. 30th, 2008   ·   location: btn rock and hard place
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willthiseverend ( member #25107) posted at 7:54 PM on Saturday, September 5th, 2009

Bumping for Chloe

Out of the night that covers me,
Black as the pit from pole to pole,
I thank whatever gods may be
For my unconquerable soul.

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willthiseverend ( member #25107) posted at 9:20 AM on Friday, September 11th, 2009

Bumping this

Out of the night that covers me,
Black as the pit from pole to pole,
I thank whatever gods may be
For my unconquerable soul.

posts: 454   ·   registered: Aug. 9th, 2009
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