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bbee ( member #17840) posted at 4:43 PM on Monday, July 7th, 2008

bump

This above all: to thine ownself be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.

Hamlet, Act I, Scene 3

Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.

All's Well That Ends Well, Act I, Scene 1

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woundedby2 ( member #18522) posted at 5:15 AM on Wednesday, July 9th, 2008

Bumping for the new ones again.

Thanks again for this great post, SerJR.

In 2010 I divorced the NPD assclown who cheated on me with my best friend.

Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson

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dead_but_alive ( member #20178) posted at 12:29 AM on Thursday, July 10th, 2008

From a somewhat newly BS -- Thanks for this post.

Me - BW

Separated - 11.19.2007 / DIVORCED - 1.13.2010
-- 19 years, 8 months, 24 days of marriage (including 2 years, 1 month, 26 days of separation) legally ended 1.13.2010. I now officially start my new life.

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connection ( member #16927) posted at 1:21 AM on Friday, July 11th, 2008

SerJR, I just saw this... I wish I could have read this almost 2 years ago!

At least there will be others who get to read it when they really, really, need it.

Your work is appreciated!

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 SerJR (original poster member #14993) posted at 3:35 AM on Monday, July 14th, 2008

Me: BH - Happily remarried.
Hope is never lost. It exists within you - it is real. It is not a force in and of itself - it is something that you create with every thought, action, and choice you make. It is a gift that you create for yourself.

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Chin Up! ( member #20057) posted at 3:21 PM on Tuesday, July 15th, 2008

EXCELLENT POST! Bumping for the newbies.

Me - BS(44)
Him - WS (43)
D-Day #1 - June 20, 2008
D-Day #2 - July 02, 2008
Status - Who the hell knows?

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Grace under pressure is not just a saying - it's my minute-by-minute goal.

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bbee ( member #17840) posted at 8:17 AM on Wednesday, July 16th, 2008

bump

This above all: to thine ownself be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.

Hamlet, Act I, Scene 3

Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.

All's Well That Ends Well, Act I, Scene 1

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hurtingstudent ( member #17432) posted at 4:01 PM on Wednesday, July 16th, 2008

bumping to the top other's need it

If epilepsy has touched your life, or for more information visit:

for support & info: www.epilepsy.com
for info & research: www.epilepsyfoundation.com
to track seizures: www.trackseizures.com

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Phill ( member #19490) posted at 11:54 PM on Wednesday, July 16th, 2008

Bump. (Especially for "fool me once".

[This message edited by Phill at 5:55 PM, July 16th (Wednesday)]

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 SerJR (original poster member #14993) posted at 11:42 PM on Friday, July 18th, 2008

Me: BH - Happily remarried.
Hope is never lost. It exists within you - it is real. It is not a force in and of itself - it is something that you create with every thought, action, and choice you make. It is a gift that you create for yourself.

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bbee ( member #17840) posted at 6:23 AM on Monday, July 21st, 2008

bump

This above all: to thine ownself be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.

Hamlet, Act I, Scene 3

Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.

All's Well That Ends Well, Act I, Scene 1

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bbee ( member #17840) posted at 2:19 AM on Wednesday, July 23rd, 2008

bump

This above all: to thine ownself be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.

Hamlet, Act I, Scene 3

Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.

All's Well That Ends Well, Act I, Scene 1

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bbee ( member #17840) posted at 7:02 AM on Friday, July 25th, 2008

bump

This above all: to thine ownself be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.

Hamlet, Act I, Scene 3

Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.

All's Well That Ends Well, Act I, Scene 1

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DivaCC ( member #20382) posted at 2:46 PM on Friday, July 25th, 2008

Wonderful and much needed! Thank you

Me- BS-35
Him- WH-38 EA Co-worker 2 months
Married 7 1/2 years
1 daughter-7
DDay-06/24/08 DDAY2- 08/03/08
The world's a rollercoaster
And I am not strapped in
Maybe I should hold with care
But my hands are busy in the air-Incubus

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Wanda23 ( member #12919) posted at 1:52 AM on Monday, July 28th, 2008

Bumping because it is so important.

Can you tell by the way that I am no longer hunched over that I'm divorced?????

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Flippa ( new member #20414) posted at 3:53 AM on Monday, July 28th, 2008

Great info, I'm 3 days out from D-day and still a computer crazed maniac gathering all the online support and information I can get. Thanks for your words.

Me - BS: 34
Him - WS: 37
D-Day: 7/24/08
OEA's began: Sept '08
No PA that he's admitted to
Married almost 5 years
2 kids (2,4)
Currently Separated

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 SerJR (original poster member #14993) posted at 7:52 PM on Wednesday, July 30th, 2008

Me: BH - Happily remarried.
Hope is never lost. It exists within you - it is real. It is not a force in and of itself - it is something that you create with every thought, action, and choice you make. It is a gift that you create for yourself.

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bbee ( member #17840) posted at 5:35 PM on Sunday, August 3rd, 2008

bump

This above all: to thine ownself be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.

Hamlet, Act I, Scene 3

Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.

All's Well That Ends Well, Act I, Scene 1

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 SerJR (original poster member #14993) posted at 4:44 PM on Tuesday, August 5th, 2008

Are we playing volleyball bbee?

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Me: BH - Happily remarried.
Hope is never lost. It exists within you - it is real. It is not a force in and of itself - it is something that you create with every thought, action, and choice you make. It is a gift that you create for yourself.

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sparrowjack ( member #20264) posted at 6:40 PM on Tuesday, August 5th, 2008

This is exactly the post I needed to read. I think I am in a 'fog' of my own. I want so badly to believe her, but she is following the script of others to a 'T'. I want to believe that she is done with him and that she wants the marriage to work, but some of her actions just aren't reflecting that.

Me: 36
Her: 36
Married: 10 years
Kids: twin boys (8) 1 girl (3)
Found out: 1/1/08
d-day: 7/15/08
moved out: 11/15/08
Filed for D: 12/19/08
She still has contact with him as of today

Life can never give security, it can only promise opportunity.

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