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Maia's Withdrawal Survival Guide (repost for newbies)

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 Maia (original poster member #8268) posted at 5:08 PM on Monday, March 12th, 2007

bumpity bumpity

The Lord is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit.Psalms 34:18

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GalGrowingUp ( member #13824) posted at 7:19 AM on Tuesday, March 13th, 2007

Thank you Maia.

I'm not R with STBXWS, but was fooled by a lying xMM.

This is helpful for both betrayals. I'm so glad I found this place. Very helpful!

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 Maia (original poster member #8268) posted at 6:52 PM on Tuesday, March 13th, 2007

you're welcome.

and welcome to SI.

The Lord is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit.Psalms 34:18

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 Maia (original poster member #8268) posted at 6:25 PM on Monday, March 19th, 2007

bumpity bumpity

The Lord is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit.Psalms 34:18

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 Maia (original poster member #8268) posted at 2:37 AM on Wednesday, March 28th, 2007

bump for newbie

:-)

The Lord is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit.Psalms 34:18

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ohpuhlease ( member #13679) posted at 3:57 AM on Wednesday, March 28th, 2007

bumping cause this is a darn good read for everyone.

Ya...wow! Holy insight Batman!

Those who know others are intelligent. Those who know themselves are truly wise. - Lao-tzu, Tao Te Ching

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 Maia (original poster member #8268) posted at 1:40 AM on Thursday, April 5th, 2007

bump

The Lord is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit.Psalms 34:18

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 Maia (original poster member #8268) posted at 4:06 PM on Saturday, April 14th, 2007

bump

The Lord is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit.Psalms 34:18

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 Maia (original poster member #8268) posted at 6:41 PM on Tuesday, April 17th, 2007

bump

The Lord is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit.Psalms 34:18

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comingundone ( member #12452) posted at 6:51 PM on Tuesday, April 17th, 2007

Thanks for the bump Maia!!!!!!!!!!

Me/FWS-45
Him/BS-44
2 great kids(15,11)
1 high-maintenance dog
Love isn't in the falling, it's in the staying. ♥

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 Maia (original poster member #8268) posted at 5:56 AM on Wednesday, April 18th, 2007

what if you aren't married and have no faith?

someone asked me that today after reading this.

good question.

here is my answer.

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first of all, there is an agnostic/atheist thread in the "I can relate" forum.

go join it. talk to others in your situation.

and secondly....even if you're not in some way religious, you can meditate. That can be helpful. Deep breathing. And most religious works have truth. Read Ghandi. read Carl Jung. Read Joseph Campbell. Search for TRUTH. thats the idea. A search for truth is always a voyage of self discovery and i know if you seek truth with all of your heart, you will always find it. Start looking at lies you've believed, examining your own heart.

you must make amends to yourself.

you've damaged yourself deeply.

and likely you have a moral code. Define it. Decide what things violate your sense of self-respect and dignity.

Sue Monk Kidd wrote a book you might appreciate about self-discovery, it was called "Dance of the Dissident Daughter"

A lady I love deeply and admire for her wisdom, an agnostic friend, recommended it to me.

I was apostate at first. I'd left Christianity for years. I want you to know that. I refused to pray, practiced tarot and tried to follow its path and got into New Age rituals ... if anything at all. Mostly nothing. I found a lot of help regardless, started the road to sanity without real faith, a weird mixture of it and something else.

I did turn back to my faith obviously. But i totally respect and sympathize with those who do not share it.

Gandhi said, "I like your Christ, but not your Christians."

yeah. I know the feeling. I decided to give Christianity another chance and ignore the Christians who'd wounded me. ...try to know Christ. But I know not all will do that. I'm realistic.

Be honest. Try these things. And try giving to your community, to others, in simple ways. Practice selflessness.

and I'd like to add that in the stories of others many times we see ourselves and the truth of our own hearts in ways we can't otherwise. Seek stories that touch you deeply, and pay attention to what they are saying. Journal that. They will likely give you answers about your journey.

write your autobiography. thats a big one.

you have to discover who you are. and what your goals are for your life. and for happiness and for marriage.

and I promise solemnly to pray for you.

[This message edited by Maia at 12:07 AM, April 18th (Wednesday)]

The Lord is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit.Psalms 34:18

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 Maia (original poster member #8268) posted at 3:52 PM on Saturday, April 21st, 2007

The Lord is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit.Psalms 34:18

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firmforever ( member #12958) posted at 3:38 PM on Tuesday, April 24th, 2007

bumping for newbie

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 Maia (original poster member #8268) posted at 7:35 PM on Thursday, April 26th, 2007

The Lord is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit.Psalms 34:18

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LostInTx ( member #14223) posted at 7:47 PM on Thursday, April 26th, 2007

Maia,

Thank you so much! Wish my WW would read this!! It should be in healing library!!!

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 Maia (original poster member #8268) posted at 10:36 PM on Tuesday, May 1st, 2007

The Lord is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit.Psalms 34:18

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 Maia (original poster member #8268) posted at 4:23 AM on Wednesday, May 9th, 2007

The Lord is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit.Psalms 34:18

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 Maia (original poster member #8268) posted at 7:54 PM on Wednesday, May 9th, 2007

The Lord is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit.Psalms 34:18

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 Maia (original poster member #8268) posted at 6:40 PM on Thursday, May 10th, 2007

bumpity bumpity

The Lord is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit.Psalms 34:18

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 Maia (original poster member #8268) posted at 2:57 PM on Friday, May 11th, 2007

The Lord is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit.Psalms 34:18

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