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Quiet and reserved or just dead inside...

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 Bingo (original poster member #72835) posted at 6:15 PM on Friday, August 26th, 2022

I seem to be attracted to the quiet, reserved, stoic type of man and they irritate the hell outta me! I spent 21 years of my life with this very type and I can only recall 2 times that he showed any emotion..

He would always say "I have emotions" but how would I know? How would you know if they never show them? I'm the type of person who wears my emotions on my sleeve, I enjoy life, I sing and dance without a care in the world, people know where they stand with me and I think that is such a refreshing personality trait!

But am I wrong to be so "put off" by the reserved type? I know it's hard for me to understand them because we're so different, but I really try...

I just feel like they're dead inside and they're sure in the hell not a lotta fun to be around. I worry that I'm attracted to that type because I want the challenge of teaching them how to enjoy life and the people around them. I know sometimes I deliberately test them just to see if I can get a reaction. Sorta "shock and awe" shit..and that's not really a cool thing to do, I know that! They just sit there looking so cute...all quiet, reserved, stoic and I wanna' scream!

Can someone help me understand them?

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MegMeg ( member #79978) posted at 11:03 PM on Saturday, August 27th, 2022

Hi Bingo,

Darned if I know. Maybe just opposites attract. I just read your story. Your stoic XWH is not worthy of you! You are fun! You like to dance and sing. You like to garden. You play golf! I feel you have a light burning brightly inside you. Next time you see a strong silent type, run! You deserve more.

Me: BS | Him: WS | Children: Grown | Married: 36 years

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 Bingo (original poster member #72835) posted at 2:17 AM on Monday, August 29th, 2022

Oh Meg, such a sweet reply to my post!

Thank you and I think I will run....

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